Wednesday 27 November 2013

It's All About This.

When I do a posting, it's all about this.
It's all about a single father raising his son on his own.  About bringing up a young child in a safe, peaceful environment.  It's all about doing the best I can while battling with my mental illness.
 
 It's all about my little boy, Tristan and a puppy named, Penny.  Symbolic of hope, of love.
It's all about my little boy who became a young man.  And those special moments, captured in a smile on a sunny day.
It's all about a puppy who became older but still listens to the voice of her inner puppy.

It's all about Fidelina, the beautiful fairy princess and her husband, Geoffrey the garden gnome.
It's all about their little boy, Einahalk.  An ideal created from love in the world of the wee folks.  A world that has lessons to teach us humans.  About living in an all different, all equal world.  Where no judgement is made.  No stigma attached.  
It's all about the award that Penny sent out to humanity.  An award that has circulated this planet spreading goodwill and peace.  A gesture that embraces the unconditional, non-judgemental love that our animal friends share with us.  

It's all about me continuing to live with, rather than suffer from my mental health issues.  It's all about my transparency and trying to be of help, of encouragement to you.

It's all about this and it's all about you.  For I'm grateful to you on the other side of the computer screen.  Thank you for being here for me.  

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  1. Yes. It really is all about all those wonderful things, and spreading that joy, recognizing how lucky we are to have such people and furry friends in our lives. Namaste to you Gary, your fine grown son and Penny too x

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    1. Hi Michelle,

      I knew you would relate to this, dear friend. We treasure all that is good in our lives and we know how blessed we are to have such caring people and furry friends amongst us. Together, with hope, we cope.

      Namaste to you and your loved ones. Penny says hi to Lardy :)

      Gary :) x

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  2. Wonderful to see the pictures of Tristan and Penny through the ages. :) You have great inspiration keeping you going. Thanks for being you and sharing your unique perspective with us. :)
    ~Jess

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    1. Hi Jess,

      Thank you very much. My son, Penny, the symbolic wee folks characters that I use in my postings, this community, all catalysts in my ongoing determination to make this a better world of all of us.

      Thank you for your thoughtful interaction, Jess :)

      Gary :)

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  3. That's all that really matters. :)

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    1. Hi L.G.,

      I couldn't have said it better than you :) Thanks.

      Gary :)

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  4. It's always a kind and peaceful place to visit. Thanks for being there.

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    1. Hi Delores,

      I always appreciate your warm comments. We visit and we share. Thank you for visiting my home. And I'm in Tim Hortons heaven :) A reminder of your generosity, dear lady.

      Gary :)

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  5. Thank you for sharing the important things with us.

    The Warrior Muse

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    1. Hi Shannon,

      And thank you. I know you understand what's truly important. Thank you for reading this, Shannon.

      Gary :)

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  6. Gary, I always enjoy reading your post, thanks for sharing. And thanks for all you and Penny the Jack Russell dog and modest internet superstar do for the blogging community. If there is anything that I can do from my side of the computer screen let me know.

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    1. Hi DAVID,

      You are most kind, good sir. Thank you for sharing. Penny, the wee folks and heck even myself, a character created by Penny, do truly believe in the positive interaction we share. Just knowing there are good folks like you on the other side of the screen brings me further gratitude. I thank you for your kind offer of support.

      Gary :)

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  7. Wow you have people on the other side of your screen? You may want to change the locks. Such are the things that truly matter, the gnomes hmm maybe

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    1. Hi Pat,

      Yep, people, rhyming cats, confused hedgehogs and a kiwi named Marvin, on the other side of my screen. I may have to change the locks and last one out should switch off the lights.

      The gnomes are your friends. Think of mushroom houses......

      Gary :)

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  8. And you should be proud of that son you raised!
    Whatever I can do for you, let me know. You and Penny have done so much for all of us.

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    1. Hi Alex,

      Thank you, good sir. I'm proud of how well I've coped on raising my son on my own. I have huge respect for single parents.

      You are most kind and just knowing you are here for us as we try to be there for you, is a comforting thought. Thank you, Alex.

      Gary :)

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  9. You and Penny did a great job raising Tristan!

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    1. Hi Debra,

      Thanks for that. However, I reckon Penny did the bestest part of looking after Tristan :)

      Gary :)

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  10. Agree with LG...that's all that really matters. :)

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    1. Hi Melissa,

      All of it really matters :) Just everyone sharing, caring and supporting each other.

      Thank you, Melissa.

      Gary :)

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  11. It's all about doing the best I can...
    And your best is amazing and inspirational. Thank you, Penny, Tristan and the wee folk for all the courage, hope and inspiration you so generously give us all.

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    1. Hi Sue,

      Indeed and realising that my illness is only a small part of who I am. You are most kind, Sue. As you will understand, I try to demonstrate that there is so much more to all of us. We inspire and inspiration breeds inspiration. Such a positive outcome and your generous interaction is warmly embraced. Thank you, dear friend.

      Gary :)

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  12. I think you've hit the nail right on the proverbial head. It is indeed about friendship and kindness to others, whether they be human or animal. It matters not in the greater scheme of things.

    Now, however, I feel horrible guilty that I no longer have The Gold Framed Dog Blog Award in my sidebar! Crikey!

    Take care of each other .... oh, and the lovely Penny :)

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    1. Hi Wendy,

      And indeed, the great honour of getting to know you, the friendship we share, our understanding that kindness to all creatures is a profound gift we all should share.

      Oops, never mind. The ideals of Penny's award lives in your heart.

      Thank you and look after YOU and your loved ones, Wendy.

      Gary :)

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    2. The inexcusable faux pas has been rectified :)

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    3. Gidday Wendy,

      Thank you and Penny is grinning from ear to ear. How she manages to do that, I have no idea! :)

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  13. I can't imagine how hard it must be to be a single parent- I get a taste of it every two weeks when my hubands swings to second shift. So props to you for giving it your all- I'm sure your son appreciates it. Give Penny a pat on the head for me. Or wherever she likes it best! =)

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    1. Hi Leandra,

      Being a single parent is quite the challenge. I know that through the tough times, that my son's resilience, my resilience, has taught us valuable lessons that will bode well for the future. Penny is happy with a pat on the head, or doggy treats :) Thank you, Leandra.

      Gary :)

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  14. Dear Gary,
    I have tears in my eyes reading your post. Beautiful boy, loving dad, and a faithful dog that ties a family together, what could be more uplifting and touching.

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    1. Dear Arleen,

      I'm truly touched by your comment. You have summarised, quite beautifully, the essence of my posting. I'm grateful to you, dear lady.

      Gary :)

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  15. I came by to say 'thank you' for joining my doll blog and now I'd like to say 'thank you' for this post. I'm full of admiration for what you do and the warmth with which you do it. One of the nicest things about the internet is that it does allow us to include a huge number of people, from different places (spiritually as well as geographically) in our circle of friends, and to feel buoyed up and supported by them. Hugs for you.

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    1. Hi Rhissanna,

      Ah yes, Penny the Jack Russell dog and modest internet superstar and myself, are most impressed with your doll blog. Mostly, Penny, I guess I should add :) You said it so well. We can rejoice in the diversity and learn so much from each other. Encouragement, support, in a united cause for a better, more caring world. Hugs back to you, my kind friend.

      Gary :)

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  16. I love visiting here Gary. Sometimes you make me smile, sometimes you make me cry, but I always leave with a sense of friendship, support and respect. I'm thankful for the internet and its ability to connect me to such fantastic people all over the globe. You've done a great job raising Tristan and you should be proud of the young man he has become.

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    1. Hi Suzanne,

      You are most generous in your support. I know we can share the various hopes, dreams, concerns, emotions. The friendship, the admiration and the respect I have for thoroughly decent people like you, makes me understand that the internet can be a powerful tool for the good. Thank you for such thoughtful words, dear friend.

      Gary :)

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  17. I so agree with LG - that's all that really matters - beautiful post, beautiful photos :-) x

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    1. Hi Teresa,

      LG, you, this entire experience, makes one realise what really matters. Thank you for being YOU, dear Teresa.

      Gary :) x

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  18. This is such a beautiful and heartfelt post. I can feel your soul in each word and each picture. Your family could want nothing more than you -- an honest, kind, loving man. Even though it's not Thanksgiving in your part of the world, I feel you've perfectly demonstrated the spirit of it here. Thanks for reminding us what's really important in life. <3

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    1. Hi Lexa,

      Thank you and the words of resonance that fills my heart with warmth for a better future for all of us. The interaction we share, a Thanksgiving of powerful, positive emotions. I know that we all truly know what really is important. Happy American Thanksgiving.

      Gary :)

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  19. Gary
    Thank you for sharing all that is important to your life with us. You keep us on our toes (and heels) because of the unexpected that comes from the Gary mind. You've done a fine job in all areas and you give delight to so many.

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    1. Hi Manzanita,

      Thank you for reading and being a part of my life, dear friend. Expect the unexpected. Variety and demonstration that there is so much more to all of us. It's a shared delight, Manzanita. Wishing you a peaceful Thanksgiving.

      Gary :)

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  20. It's truly the little things that we should be grateful for. Happy Thanksgiving, Gary. :)

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    1. Hi Static,

      My good friend, we have shared many a laugh. And beyond that we know how much we have to be grateful for. Happy Thanksgiving, kind sir.

      Gary :)

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  21. That's a lot to be thankful for.

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    1. Hi Pat,

      I'm blessed and very thankful. Wishing you a peaceful Thanksgiving.

      Gary :)

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  22. I love your blog and I'm glad I found it. :)

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    1. Hi JoJo,

      You are very kind. I'm glad we share such interaction. I love your photos and your creativity. A wonderful Thanksgiving to you.

      Gary :)

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  23. Wonderful... thank you for sharing!

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    1. Hi Jeremy,

      Thank you, Jeremy. I hope my sharing of your posting on Facebook has made you smile, my friend. Happy Thanksgiving to you.

      Gary :)

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  24. What a beautiful post Gary! Thank you for sharing your humor and thoughtfulness with us and helping us to realize what is really important in life. Many blessings to you and yours! ~ Diane and the Kitties

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    1. Hi Diane,

      Thank you for such nice words, dear friend. We all need to stop and reflect. Know what truly matters in our lives. Many warm wishes to you and the Kitties.

      Gary :)

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  25. Gary, what an wonderful and inspiring blog! I'm a single parent, too. My daughter is 33 now and has two beautiful children of her own, but you never stop being a parent. That's another thing to be thankful for this week.

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    1. Hi Max,

      And what an inspiring comment. I was grateful to have just had those magical moments with you over at Farcebook, oops, Facebook ) Total respect to you and all that being a single parent entailed. Your daughter will always be your precious little girl.

      Be well and thank you for this.

      Gary :)

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  26. Tristan is lucky to have a brave father like you. Single parenting is not easy at all. Penny is such a beautiful little dog we can't help but to adore. And you know what I think about you, Gary. I'll never be tired of repeating it. You're a great man!

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    1. Hi Al,

      Your kind, thoughtful words are inspiring. Single parenting is one heck of a challenge. A challenge I totally dedicated myself to. Penny thinks you are terrific and so do I. We were honoured and flattered to have been included in your special party. The Golden Scale Award is treasured and we be proudly noted. Thank you, great Dragon! :)

      Gary :)

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    1. Hi Al Penwasser,

      Much obliged, good sir. A peaceful Thanksgiving to you.

      Gary :)

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  28. Thank you for being there, Gary!
    I agree with Al Diaz. Tristan is lucky to have you.
    Being a parent is so difficult. I always say I have two careers but in reality I have three. Motherhood is one of them and it is the one I find the most challenging and exhausting. But it is also wonderful.
    As parents we learn each and every day, and the journey of life is a roller-coaster in itself.
    Keep writing your posts with Penny and the lovely fairies. Your posts make us fly!
    Thank you for being there, Gary.

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    1. Hi Julia,

      And thank you for being there and being you, Julia :)
      Al Diaz is very kind to state that and so are you.

      Parenting can be a challenge. When our children hurt, we hurt and when they smile, they light up our world. I know that I'm exhausted and the juggling acts of outside life can sometimes get too much. Somehow, we understand that all of that makes all of this, even more special.

      The posts by Penny are ideals of a better reality. Penny is a therapeutic outlet that keeps me going. And the wee folks, a symbol of compassion and love in a world where stigma is an alien concept. And we shall fly. Nobody shall ever clip our wings, dear Julia.

      Thank you for your beautiful comment.

      Gary :)

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  29. Beautiful, Gary. I'm grateful that I know you. I know you're in England, but I'll wish you Happy Thanksgiving anyway.

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    1. Hi Carol,

      Thank you so much. The gratitude is reciprocated, dear lady. I did celebrate Canadian Thanksgiving, eh. Thank you for that Thanksgiving wish. And may your Thanksgiving be peaceful.

      Gary :)

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  30. You & Penny are a BLESSING.
    Sending you lots of love and warm hugs from Minnesota....
    because it's all about spreading the love, which you do beautifully. XXXxx

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    1. Hi Kim,

      You are way too kind Penny would tell you that her human brother, Tristan, is a blessing. Okay, she might reluctantly admit I'm some sort of blessing. After I give her doggy treats :)

      Love and warm hugs from Minnesota from you is a BLESSING!. The love vibrations are going round the world. Wishing you a peaceful Thanksgiving, dear Kim.

      Gary :) xxx

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  31. now there you go making me CRY! This was beyond beautiful. You are so important and back at you " For I'm grateful to you on the other side of the computer screen. Thank you for being here for me. "

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    1. Hi Caren,

      Tears of hope for a more caring world. We shall all make it so. I also know that we never need feel alone. From this side of the computer, hi and have a lovely Thanksgiving :)

      Gary :)

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  32. Gary, it has to be your sense of humor that carries you through.

    Hugs and chocolate,
    Shelly

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    1. Hi Shelly,

      Very intuitive of you, dear Shelly. If I couldn't share a sense of humour, I think that I would end up retreating back to a world I never want to visit again.

      A wonderful Thanksgiving to you and your loved ones.

      Gary :)

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  33. What an excellent post of gratitude, Gary. That, my friend, is exactly what it's all about.

    M.L. Swift, Writer

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    1. Hi Michael,

      An attitude of gratitude. Thank you, kind sir. I know that such ideals are embraced by you. It's truly all about this.

      In peace,

      Gary :)

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  34. Thank you for modeling what it's all about all of the time, Gary.

    Blessings and love to you and Penny, my friend(s).

    xoRobyn

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    1. Hi Robyn,

      I know you relate to this and I'm grateful. You truly know what it's all about, dear Robyn.

      A peaceful Thanksgivukkah to you!

      Gary :) x

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  35. I am sure I read something about sex on busses here once too. Gary tin a world where so many people are trying not to feel anything, you manage to get through in a safe, nurturing, honest and oft funny way. Infinite gratitude circle commencing... :)

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    1. Hi Ida,

      Lovely to see you, my friend. Ah yes, "Sex Coach." I firmly believe we have to be transparent. Through this, I've seen that people can relate and it gives us a sense of unity for that compassionate world we crave. Circles within circles, ever extending in hope and peace.

      Thank you, dear Ida.

      Gary :)

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    2. Thank you Gary (not tin). Point taken I knew there was a reason I didn't say spiral. After reading all your replies to comments and now mine again, I have to say you also get through in a highly intelligent, enlightened and reflective way as well. There is much to witness and learn in these here pages... (hugs)

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    3. Hi Ida,

      Thank you for the follow up comment and thank you for that incredibly thoughtful posting on your site. Yes and Oz never gave nothing to the Tin Man, that didn't already have....

      The interaction within the comments section is heartening and encouraging. I love the way we have a shared exchange of thoughts, hopes and dreams.

      Hugs to you and enjoy your adventure, my friend.

      Gary :)

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  36. I have said it before Mr G you are an old softy . . . . . . :), I hope you are OK

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    1. Hi Rob,

      Yes I am. Shall put in a 99 Flake in the cone :) Having a tough time as this oppressive British government will not leave me in peace. We shall overcome, good sir. I appreciate your concern and I hope all is well with you, my friend.

      Gary :)

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  37. Beautifully crafted. Sums you up well, as it does your goals. You fulfill this purpose daily. We love you, Gary. You're something special :-)
    Tina @ Life is Good

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    1. Hi Tina,

      That is most kind of you, dear lady. Each day, a goal to be broken down into smaller segments to reach the final goal of realising a world where stigma is eliminated. Tina, you know you are remarkable. It resonates in your words and postings.

      A peaceful and positive Thanksgiving to you and your loved ones.

      Gary :)

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  38. Beautiful post. You, your son, and Penny are an amazing and loving bunch. No matter the darkness, there is always light.

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    1. Hi Medeia,

      I appreciate that. I know that raising my son by myself has created a stronger bond. I know that Penny can sense this. Always a positive light shining even in what seems the darkest of moments. Thank you, Medeia.

      Gary :)

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  39. I couldn't say it better, Gary, so I'm just here supporting you, even if you don't always see a comment from me.

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    1. Hi Joylene,

      I sense your presence. Your support and kindness has been one of the inspirations in my life. I know you are remarkable. Thank you, dear friend.

      Gary :)

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  40. Wonderful photos of Tristan and Penny! We're all grateful that you bring so much joy into our lives Gary! Through your incredible sense of humor, and extreme kindness and understanding, you will continue to soldier on stronger than ever.

    Julie

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    1. Hi Julie,

      Thank you and those photos are treasured. I'm honoured to be a part of something very special. I'm encouraged that I can bring joy into your life and others' lives. Such kind words as yours and through adversity, makes me even more resilient. I'm grateful to you, Julie.

      Hope you had a lovely Thanksgiving.

      Gary :)

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  41. Scrolling...scrolling...I seem to always be late. I was detained by the fairies and gnomes in your yard. Then Penny and I sat down for a chat. But I'm here now to tell you that you have a heart of gold - not heavy gold, like in gold bullion - but true friendship gold, the kind that embraces and heals. I thank you for that, counting you as one of my special friends.

    Now, about the fairy and her husband the gnome...they told me some outrageous stories about what goes on in your garden at night. Are you aware of the comings and goings? The night rides on moonbeams and skating on rainbows?

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    1. Hi River,

      I know and that scrolling and the way this comment format now skips about makes me think I might have to change my comment set up. The fairies, the gnomes were thrilled to have a celebrity such as you visit their enchanted land. Penny has told me of your chat and how you exchanged idea on writing techniques. Here's to your elf :)

      Such a golden friendship we share, River. The glow of the gold reveals the respect and admiration that is truly cherished. I thank you.

      Fidelina and Geoffrey have been known to have wild orgies. Not like I watch. The night is bathed in the moonbeams of magic. So they tell me.

      Gary :)

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  42. You are a nice bloke
    Happy thanksgiving

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    1. Hi John,

      And so are you, good sir. Your gentle stories convey that. Although me being in England, we didn't have Thanksgiving. A happy Welsh morning to you.

      Gary :)

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  43. Hi Gary. This is an inspirational post. What lovely photos. Heartwarming.
    Happy Thanksgiving!

    Denise

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    1. Gidday Denise,

      I appreciate that. Inspiration breeds inspiration. Glad you liked the photos. Being in England, Thanksgiving is an ideal I embrace, minus the turkey :)

      Have a wonderful overseas adventure.

      Gary :)

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  44. We're all glad to be here for you Gray, you write wonderful stories, your poems are great and Penny's tales are worth waiting for too. I think you've been a great dad.

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    1. Hi River,

      You are most kind, River. I know that the shared interaction encourages and inspires. Thank you for that. Penny certainly has some stories. It's nice that she is willing to take over for me. I'm most grateful for your words.

      Enjoy your weekend.

      Gary :)

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  45. Dude,

    It's all about being honest - and I'm so thankful (coming out of Thanksgiving) that you are who you is - and who you is has the *balls* to stand up and say I will *not* be simply a statistic or a number.

    I want to curse right now, but I won't, but just know, as you do, that I think you are a (insert bad cooking-sounding word) genuine peep and a real friend.

    I can't know what it is that plagues your times of darkness/sadness, but I am so dam* happy for the posts you share - no matter the subject.

    Therefore, you are a true friend - and should my travels bring me again to England, I will be sure to not leak in my desire to find a small town in Old Blighty.

    I will search high and low and leave no staff alone in my search for the one village with a funny name and an awesome resident - oh and also the human that cares for him. :)

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    1. Mark, dude,

      Good sir, since the very beginning of this blog, the transparency was something I have always tried to convey. No stats or numbers required. Quite right, my friend.

      I'm honoured to have your friendship. Friendship is what this is also all about. Sincerity and kindness are gifts you share and I share right back.

      Overwhelming negative situations tested every fibre of my being. Our environment can have a devastating impact on our mental health. I do my utmost to not let what happened dictate how I am. Not easy, but resilience, demonstrating that my illness is only a small part of who I am, has been known to help out those who may be in the depths of despair. This is therapy, not matter what I write about.

      If your travels grace England, once more, you can believe you would be warmly welcomed. I would organise the parade and purchase balloons :)

      A place named after an onion has one resident with a strange Canadian accent, eh. Thank you, Mark. You are a marvel.

      Happy weekend and well done for surviving Thanksgiving.

      Gary :)

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  46. And I am grateful to you and Penny and to the internet. Yes the internet, I know it sounds silly, but I'm grateful to this little monitor that makes it possible for me to stop by your blog, read your updates, your words, and know a real friend is just a few clicks away. (:

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    1. Hi Elise,

      What a lovely thing to say :) The monitor can help us through those times when we might be feeling alone. We then understand that we never need feel alone. I'm grateful for your kindness and the internet can be a powerful tool for the good. How we learn, how we share and care, is deeply profound.

      Wishing you a peaceful weekend, Elise.

      Gary :)

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  47. And it's all about the way you speak from the heart, each and every time. Thank you for sharing so much with us.

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    1. Hi Annalisa,

      Thank you for such thoughtful words. I know that speaking from the heart can help others and indeed, help myself in my ongoing challenge towards a better life Thank you, Annalisa.

      A peaceful weekend to you.

      Gary :)

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  48. What a sweet post Gary. Tristan and Penny couldn't ask for a kinder father to your human and fur child.

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    1. Hi Terry,

      That's very sweet of you, Terry. I try to be the best father I can to my son and my fur child daughter :)

      Wishing you a very nice weekend.

      Gary :)

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  49. Such a wonderful post, Gary xx

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    1. Hi Carole,

      You are very kind, dear friend.

      I do so hope that you and your beloved have a most peaceful weekend.

      Hugs,

      Gary xx

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  50. Sorry about the late visit. Our son from Hawaii was visiting us and this time we had him home for about six days which is very rare. You know how time flies.

    You are one of the best Dads I have come across. My niece has down syndrome .and both my brother and his wife are such good parents. I only know too well about people who suffer from mental health issues and their families. If any one has a heart it would be a family member of some one who is hurting.
    You must have done a fantastic job raising Tristan and Penny.

    Who is to say that only certain kind of people are good parents.

    We went out to see what is selling on Black Friday and guess what - - - we found a copy of the movie called "Way way back". It is a wonderful movie about a boy in his early adult hood who finds his way to happiness while his step father puts him down. If you get a chance, see if you can watch it.

    Take care of yourself. Give love to Tristan and Penny.
    - Munir

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    1. Hi Munir,

      I'm grateful that you visited. I'm delighted that your son came over to visit you from Hawaii. I've no doubt it was a wonderful family get together.

      Mental health issues impact on all those concerned. Your brother and his wife have displayed that love goes beyond the ongoing challenges they incur. It seems that those with adversity are often the ones who can teach an inspirational lesson.

      I have done my best on my own with no help from people nearby who she have been supportive. It makes me stronger and I have coped with my mental health concerns and still managed to be a loving single dad.

      I shall try and have a look at the movie you mention The storyline is something that echoes parts of my childhood.

      Thank you so much and my wishes of peace back to you.

      Gary :)

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  51. Oh, Gary. How I understand your pain. Yesterday and today, with my head pounding and I was in that dark pit, I thought of you and how you continue pull yourself along. Thank you, Gary.

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    1. Hi Susan,

      Somewhere beyond the pain, is the hope. I'm so sorry you've been having that debilitating pain. Just a focused visualisation can take away a bit of the pain. I know we can all inspire each other. I hope you are feeling better now, Susan.

      Gary :)

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  52. Thank you, Gary and Penny. Thanks for the things you teach us, thanks for the joy you spread.

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    1. Hi Sara,

      Thank you, Sara. I know we are constantly teaching each other our own unique lessons. When we stop learning, we stop living. Joy to you and the world, dear lady.

      Gary :)

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  53. Hi Gary, nice to meet you. Its also nice to meet Tristan and Penny. I like the puppy who listens to the voice of her inner puppy (that picture and the words have given me a wonderful story idea). I will let you know how the story unfurls when I work on it.

    Each and every word of this post resonates with so much meaning and heart felt emotion. Thanks for sharing this post. Have a lovely weekend.

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    1. Hi Rachna,

      Thank you and a pleasure to have made your acquaintance. Behold, my English family unit :) Her inner puppy, like our inner child, speaks of the wonders we need to embrace. Look forward to your story idea.

      I'm glad to share as I know we can all share our hopes, our dreams. Thank you, dear friend. A peaceful weekend to you.

      Gary :)

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  54. I just popped over from Keith's Optimistic Existentialist blog.
    Love your blog.
    Rick, your latest follower.

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    1. Hi Rick,

      Very glad you dropped over from our friend, Keith's blog. You are very kind in what you note. I shall have a visit of your site later on. Thank you for linking into our blog.

      Wishing you a pleasant weekend.

      Gary :)

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    1. Hi Misha,

      And thank you. Penny the Jack Russell dog and modest internet superstar, thanks you. Keep staying real, Misha.

      Gary :)

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  56. Gary you have love overflowing. What a lucky dog-dog and son you have.

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    1. Hi Julie,

      That's very nice of you, Julie. I'm blessed to have a wonderful dog and an amazing son who has been through so much.

      Happy weekend to you.

      Gary :)

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  57. Yay! Cheese for the awesome man...and while we're at it, let's shape it in a heart. =) You are rock-tastic, Gary. Not sure if that means you should be a rock star or so solid people can grow around you like moss... *shrugs* (Loved this post.)

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    1. Hey Crystal,

      Yes, I'm cheesy, cheesy like Sunday morning.... Heart-shaped cheese, cheese and thank you. I'm more of a rolling stone who might just be gathering moss :)

      Thank you for such a nice comment. I Gouda go now.....

      A nice n' cheesy weekend to you.

      Gary :)

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  58. You said it… A wonderful post of the true meaning of life. Living… With love, family, friends, furry pals, and joy. But along with this are the fears, stress, and sheer unpleasantness of the other aspects of life. But our inner strength keeps us grounded and we can appreciate the joys of life.

    This Thanksgiving season reminds be to be thankful of the small joys in life and to appreciate our cyber friends who in my case are closer to me than my own family.

    Let this holiday season bring you all the simple and lovely joys that life has blessed all of us with, and may the new year bring peace to all.

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    1. Hi Michael,

      And you echoed and added to my thoughts, kind sir. We strive for a balance. We strive to not let a negative environment sabotage our right to a peaceful life. The inner strength becomes even more profound in times of adversity.

      This season of reflection, of hope, does make me understand that we have an impact on the world beyond our computer screens. This blogging community, a powerful force for the good.

      A very thoughtful comment. And as the years closes, may the dawning of the new year, bring us that little bit closer to the all different, all equal world we cherish in our hearts.

      Gary :)

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  59. That picture with Penny in the gold frame makes my heart smile. You are generous to share so much of yourself on your blog in order to give other people hope and encouragement

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    1. Hi Jocelyn,

      Ah yes, that photo award from Penny. It is there to make your heart smile and thus, a beautiful outcome :) You are most kind. Together, with hope, we cope.

      Gary :)

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  60. I just recently found your blog and I am glad through other bloggers sharing that I did. My son is also raising his son due to his mother and drugs becoming the only important thing in her life. Enjoyed reading this posting today!

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    1. Hi Gossip_Grl,

      I'm heartened that we have interacted through the sharing of the magic of the blogging community. Drugs can be all consuming. It's a very sad situation when the next high becomes more important than the love high of her son. Thank you for being here. And much respect to your son.

      Gary :)

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  61. Hi Gary - I'm very late to catch this .. I've been 'studying' and that finished yesterday .. so now I'm getting back to my normal (erratic) blogging world ... We need your awareness of life and the challenges it throws up - but I love Tristan's photos .. boy has he changed! well I guess we all have .. then Penny too .. she who can take over when gremlins creep in ... and your gnomes ... and if only we could live in a world that is judgement free, and kindness is endemic, while our brains think of the next 7 generations and what we'll leave for their benefit ...

    It is all about our loved ones ... lovely post - cheers Hilary

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    1. Hi Hilary,

      I'm delighted to have you visit, dear Hilary. Now that the studying is finished, I'm sure you be lighting up the blogging world with your meticulously written postings.

      The challenges can make us stronger, more defiant to the negativity that would try to darken our world. The changes in my son, myself, quite hopeful changes. Penny writes and I cope better. The wee folks, another positive distraction to help me keep by brain active. Imagine a world that is greener, cleaner, more caring. Such a legacy for the next seven generations.

      All about what's near and dear to our hearts. Thank you for your kindness, Hilary.

      Gary

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  62. I often wonder why it's the "mentally stable" ones in our world who run for political office and win, while we in the not so stable category nurture our children, care for our pets and till the soil. You do till the soil, right?

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    1. Hi Lee,

      Many of those these days in political power are there because they feed of apathy. They have proven they don't care about anything other than feeding their own pathetic ego trips. Your comment resonates with the horror of politics going on in Britain.

      Those that nurture their children, look after our beloved animals and till the soil, are being targeted by those allegedly "mentally stable."

      I till the soil, pull the weeds and wash windows.

      Gary

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  63. What a lovely post. Bought a tear to my eye Gary.
    I too value the people on the other side of the screen more than they (you) could possibly know!
    Blessings
    Kimmie x

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    1. Hi Kimmie,

      That is very kind of you, dear lady. I know you realise the gifts we share. And we share that powerful gift that is empathy. I have made mention of my own situation in regards to this evil British government on the link you noted. Thank you, Kimmie.

      In peace and hope,

      Gary x

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  64. Lovely photos! This is a little haven of warm and kind thoughts.

    Sending you and Penny my kind thoughts too!

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    1. Hi fairyhedgehog,

      Thank you so much. That is a very kind thing to say. Much appreciated.

      Penny and I send you back our warm wishes.

      Gary :)

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  65. You have such a beautiful way of reminding us of the important things in life. It's not our cars or homes. It's family (human and furry) that really make the difference in our worlds. I'm grateful I found your blog. It's a great place to find hope and happiness. Thank you for giving me the link to Tristen. He's a happy, handsome fella. I can't imagine what your journey has been raising him alone. Kudos to you, my new friend.

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    1. Hi Elsie,

      You are most kind, my dear friend. The material things are but possessions. Indeed, the catalyst for our inspirations is there in our humanity. Family, furry family members and friends, that's what it's all about. Thank you for responding to the link. Very good of you. The road has had potholes and yet, the challenge of being a single father has taught be so much more about who I am. Peaceful, positive kudos to you, Elsie.

      In kindness,

      Gary

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I do try to comment back to each commenter individually. However, I might have to shorten my replies or give a group thank you. That way, I can spend more time commenting on your blogs. Thank you and peace, my friend.