Friday, 21 February 2014

Seven Sees.

Today, February 21, marks the seventh anniversary of this blog.  Seven years ago today this blog was born with the hopes of being part of a sharing, caring blogging community.  This I have realised.  During times of trouble, you've provided me with comfort, with encouragement.  For that, I'm profoundly grateful.  .

Seven sees me more determined than ever that we celebrate the differences and learn lessons from such diversity.

As of late, my interaction has been sporadic at best.  Overwhelming circumstances in my personal life have made my ability to focus on writing, a most difficult proposition.  Not only am I dealing with the upheaval of an impending move to a new place, I'm incessantly bombarded by a ruthless government that wont accept the huge amount of medical reports that confirm I'm not well.  Now, they are sending a health care professional to my house to perform a face-to-face assessment.

Over and over again, I'm having to dredge up the painful memories that I desperately try to move on from. Such evil irony.  They're making me sicker with the stress and anxiety.

It all gets too much.  Along with the constant hassle by the British government, my neighbours are becoming intolerable, yet again.  Thank goodness I may not have to tolerate my neighbours for much longer. I worry about my son as he will have to find his own place.  I worry about our beloved dog, Penny, during such unsettling times.

Seven sees me clinging onto my remaining fibres of positivity.  I must not allow the negativity to take me back to that horrible place of hell that nearly killed me.

Seven sees me still believing that there will be positives out of the perceived negatives.  The flickering flame of hope will not be extinguished.  I visualise that day when I can breathe.  A day when suffocation by those who would sabotage my yearning to live in peace, will finally leave me alone.

Seven sees me, no matter what happens, that I'll deal with it in a sober state.  Once upon a time, alcohol was my love, my best friend.  One day, my "best friend" nearly killed me.  I got scared, saw the tears in the eyes of my nine year old son as I lay dying in hospital.  That was the day I turned it around, got better and became a free man.  A day, nearly sixteen years ago, forever etched in my heart.

Seven sees this free man defiantly refusing to be chained.  Resolute in his determination to see this through.  I thank you for being here.

187 comments:

  1. Hello:
    Such difficult times for you and we are so sorry. But, please, for both the sake of your son and Penny too, try to keep hold of that which is positive. Not easy we know but you have the full support of all of your friends in the Blogosphere.

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    1. Hi Jane and Lance,

      Your warm thoughts are truly embraced. Not matter what, I will never allow negative situations get the better of me or my family. The blogging world is a blessing. Thank you.

      In kindness,

      Gary

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  2. Hi Gary. I have been reading your posts for many years and it's always an experience to visit here; sometimes you make me laugh out loud and sometimes I am deeply moved. This post is very moving and tinged with sadness but you still manage to say a lot of positive things! (No comment is complete without my trademark exclamation mark!!)
    Good luck to you my friend, I really mean that.
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    1. Hi Bazza,

      Thank you, good sir. A whole range of emotions, indeed. Yes, I always try to find the positive out of what seems a negative. Humour and a modicum of balance has been vital tonics. Along with encouragement from decent people like you, Barry. Thank you for the exclamation marks!!

      With respect,

      Gary

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  3. Well done on making it to seven Mr G that is impressive indeed. I wish you luck with the face to face interview some of those folk are nice and some are not and some appear nice and will do the dirty on you so take care. Maybe peer at them through the letter box for a while and put then on the back foot a bit. And tell them as little as possible they will try and trick you with their cunning ways.

    Glad the alcohol did not win Mr G it destroys many lives, I have always preferred tea or hot chocolate.

    All the best and maybe a party when you get to ten years. . . .

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    1. Hi Rob,

      Thank you for that, Mr. R. Seven years has gone by very fast. My latest face to face is in my home. Thankfully, my other face to face in an office was a respectful affair. I know of the questions and observations that will be made. It's all a farce, my friend.

      Alcohol was my devious comfort when my world was falling apart. Thankfully, I found the inner strength and the catalyst that was my son.

      A party in three years time :)

      Cheers, sir,

      Gary

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  4. So glad I have found your blog. Sending you prayers that the hassle with the red tape eases up very soon and you find relief. Also that your moving situation works itself out soon. Sounds like you have a lot going on in your life, and much to be thankful for, so far. Celebrating with you!

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    1. Hi Julie,

      I'm heartened we discovered each other's blogs. Your prayers for the removal of bureaucratic hassles are greatly appreciate. Thank you. Despite all that is overwhelming me, I do find solace in all that is good in my life. You are a treasure, Julie.

      In peace,

      Gary

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  5. Happy 7th year!!
    So glad those neighbors may be hitting the road soon!
    Your blog faithfulness is a source of joy, Gary.

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    1. Hi Susan,

      Thank you, Susan.
      I am going to be distancing myself from my neighbours in my hopeful brand new place.
      I rejoice in our interaction, Susan. Thank you.

      Kind wishes,

      Gary

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  6. Celebrating your seven years with you and holding good thoughts that this last interview will BE the last interview and that you will be left to enjoy the peace you so desire. Your annoying neighbours are getting this old lady's back up....I may have to go over there and whip their sorry butts into shape lol.

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    1. Hi Delores,

      Your words are cherished, dear lady. It has been one form after another. One interview after another. It's about time they left me alone. How much proof do they need...Please come over and kick their sorry asses! :) The neighbours and this awful government!

      Take care, eh,

      Gary

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  7. I wish I could hug you, Gary, and tell you that things will be OK. You have been through much and YOU HAVE SURVIVED. You have because you have strength and are a winner. Think positive and deal with one thing at a time. Look at this move as an adventure. You have your son, Penny, and all of us out here in Blogland who want to encourage you through all these trials.

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    1. Hi Arleen,

      I sensed your virtual hug. Thank you for that. I know things will be okay. They always do, somehow. The more I get suppressed, the more I do survive, my friend. I try to break down each challenge into workable amounts with that positive ideal in mind. The move, despite mixed emotion, shall be quite the adventure. I'm excited at the prospect. The encouragement of so many is a gift I'm so grateful for. Thank you, Arleen.

      In peace and goodwill,

      Gary

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  8. For seven years Gary you have brought comfort, reassurance and friendship to many. I hope that your move will be a positive one and that you can find the peace you deserve.

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    1. Hi Suzanne,

      Such caring words, dear lady. I know that the positive interaction we can all share is a statement of hope. The move, a renewal and a time to get on with my life, my son's life and our beloved dog's life. Thank you, Suzanne.

      With warm wishes,

      Gary

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  9. Seven is a lucky number. Make it yours, my friend. Stay strong through the government hassle, the neighbors, and the move. We are here for you.
    Congratulations on seven years of blogging.

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    1. Hi Alex,

      Seven up and ready for the lucky realisation, my friend. My strength is reinforced by you and all of these incredible people who have honoured me with their encouragement. I appreciate this very much.

      Thank you for the congratulations, Alex.

      With peaceful wishes,

      Gary

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  10. The medical profession be damned!! Take charge of yourself. You are strong enough to do that and you will always be the dad your son wants you to be. Do it for him. I quite drinking over 20 years ago and (hopefully) will never return to it.

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    1. Hi Dizzy-Dick,

      It's not so much the medical profession, but this evil government that has hired private, alleged healthcare companies to do a government lead point system. A system so dubious that seriously ill people, people with cancer, have had their benefits removed and told to find work that doesn't exist. Indeed, I did it for my son, my family, my friends and for myself. You are commended on your lengthy abstinence, good sir. I didn't believe I could stop drinking. It was hell, but now I feel free. I shall never return to that hell.

      Be well, my friend,

      Gary

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  11. Happy blogaversary! Hopefully by the 8th you will everything sorted out.

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    1. Hi Pat,

      I thank you, good sir. Hopefully, within a few months, all will be fine.

      Glad I managed to find your new blog set up.

      Take care, Pat,

      Gary

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  12. Good for you, Gary, and just keep on forging ahead! Sending you every best wish I can lay my hands on. And Happy 7th Blogoversary too!

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    1. Hi Debra,

      Thank you very much, Debra. I shall forge on, my friend. Those best wishes you laid your hands on have arrived :) Thank you for the anniversary wishes.

      All the best, eh,

      Gary

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  13. There will be, there will be, there will be. Things will get better, you can weather this cruel storm, I know all too well your fears about the visit from the so called professional. You'll have to call on all your reserves to do it, but you can. You have such strength in you, and we are all, to a man, woman and dog behind you with support. Hold on, and the light will shine again. Hugs. Michelle x
    Oh yes and congratulations on seven years!

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    1. Hi Michelle,

      You know of this evil, all too well, of which I speak. It gets tiresome and stressful being assessed by alleged health care professionals who work according to the government's targets. It's an immoral outrage. Yet, dear lady, I have the strength to challenge this. Thanks to you, my other blogging friends and all the wonderful dogs.

      Hugs to you and thankfully I can find your blog again. Thanks for the congratulations for seven years of my supposed blogging. Well mine and a certain diva dog :)

      Be well and smile, Michelle,

      Gary x

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  14. Happy seventh anniversary of blogging Gary. Your blog is truly a treasure. And yes sir, please always hold on to that positivity, even though I know it's not always an easy thing to do during times of upheaval and transition. I will be thinking of you, my good friend.

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    1. Hi Keith,

      I thank you for that, my kind friend. Positivity shall always overcome the situations that try to threaten our right to a peaceful life. The more adversity, the more peaceful defiance. Thank you for your kind thoughts, Keith.

      In peace and smiles,

      Gary

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  15. Congratulations on seven years of warmth, humour, and support. And may the next seven years be as good.
    I am so sorry to hear that you are being made to jump through hoops AGAIN to attempt to convince the ignorant of truth.
    Hiss and spit to your neighbours.
    Hugs and homage to you and to Penny.

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    1. Hi Sue,

      Thank you kindly for the congratulations and your thoughtful words. Here's to the next seven being even more of the same and better.

      The reason for the hoops is because in these times of austerity, the vulnerable are being targeting to pay for the mistakes of the incompetent fortunate. The British government is truly evil. There day of reckoning is coming.

      My neighbours are the type that impose of decent folks. I hiss and spit with you.

      Hugs back to you, dear lady.

      Warm wishes, your way,

      Gary

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  16. Seven is the number of God. I believe He is with you.

    Prayer, hugs, and chocolate!

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    1. Hi Shelly,

      And thus, seven be the number that inspires hope. Thank you, dear Shelly.

      Hugs and hope,

      Gary

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  17. Congrats on keeping the same blog for 7 years, I started my first when living in Spain since then have had many,
    Here's to the next 7 years Gary.
    Yvonne.

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    1. Hi Yvonne,

      Thank you for that, my dear friend. I hope that your wonderful blog remains intact this time. Here's to the next seven years for both of us.

      Wishing you well,

      Gary

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  18. Gary, I hate that feeling of displacement that you describe. I hate that feeling of being harassed that you describe. 7 is a lucky number ~ this is the start of a new 7 year cycle. And even the things we don't like and have no control over have their purpose ~ taking us to better places ~ in our hearts and our minds. Be strong xx you have a lot of people standing with you.

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    1. Hi Carol,

      Displacement, relentless harassment and constant anxiety due to evil bureaucracy. The start of the new seven year cycle shall see me cleansed and ready to move on. With the stress endured does indeed give us the determination to challenge, to question, to make things change for the better.

      I gather the strength from you and all the caring people, Carol. I'm deeply grateful to know you.

      In kindness and resilience,

      Gary

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  19. Seven is a long arse time, congrats. and don't let them get to you, if they try make them eat the pups poo

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    1. Hi Pat in the Hatt,

      Seven long years and still a rather unknown blog. Okay, except for the dog. Thanks for the congrats and hey some, doggy pats. Make them eat dog shit. You know it.

      Take care, over there,

      Gary

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  20. Yes, life, for some reason is much like a heartbeat. Up down ... up down ... up down.
    Hope the 'up' will surface to your shores, bathe you in sunshine, and wash away your troubles.

    Take care, Gary. Big Hug. Thinking of you ... and the lovely Penny :)

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    1. Hi Wendy,

      And the heartbeat is trying to be taken away by the most evil British government I've ever known. Yet, the beat goes on and it gets stronger with outraged defiance. The sunshine will be cast down and the troubles will dissipate, my dear friend. Thank you.

      A big hug back to you, Wendy. Penny just loves your hug.

      In kindness and hope,

      Gary :)

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    2. Just swinging by to see how you are. Actually, I may just email. Anyway, hope you're doing okay, Gary?

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    3. Hi Wendy,

      I appreciate you swinging by :) Always nice when we email each other. Don't worry too much about emailing. I'm doing my best to keep the stress under control, thank you. I think I need to move to a tropical island. Hope all is well with you, dear lady.

      Gary

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  21. First of all my family's and my congratulations on the seventh anniversary of your blog. We enjoy your blog a lot and also learn from it. I learned the phrase of celebrating diversity from your blog. Also learned that no matter where we are today, if we want to improve we will.
    Sorry about the harassment by the authorities. They are suppose to help us out, but the red tape and bureaucracy keeps getting in the way and they forget the real purpose of the government.
    I hope that things ease out for you.

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    1. Hi Munir,

      I thank you and your family for the congratulations. That is most kind. Celebrating the diversity in an all different, all equal world. We challenge adversity and we find the positives out of the perceived negatives.

      We are being harassed over here by a ruthless government that is targeting the most vulnerable in society. They do not help, but hinder. To make those who are sick, sicker, is an unjustifiable outrage.

      I embrace your hopeful wishes, dear Munir.

      In peace and hope,

      Gary

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  22. I'm so happy to hear about all your accomplished despite the difficulties. Especially on becoming sober. Too many never try, abandon their kids, and cling to their addiction. (Like my father.) I hope you find a time - very soon - where you can breathe free and live your life in peace. You really deserve it. I'll keep you in my thoughts.

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    1. Hi Lexa,

      I thank you for highlighting the positives out of all of this. I was psychologically and physically addicted to alcohol. The very thing that was killing me, was what my body needed. Such horrible irony. Addiction is a nightmare. You become a spectator in your own life. Watch it fall apart, watch your loved ones go and yet, the power of the addiction can be all consuming. I'm so sorry your father couldn't find the inner strength to overcome his addiction. A cautionary tale, dear Lexa. I wait for the day when I'm no longer stifled and the fresh air of freedom truly feels my lungs.

      Thank you for keeping me in your thoughts.

      In peace and warm wishes,

      Gary

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  23. I am so sorry that you are going through all of this but you CAN get through it because you have before! Remember what you just wrote "Seven sees this free man defiantly refusing to be chained. Resolute in his determination to see this through."
    I also celebrate your seventh anniversary of this most thoughtful and beautiful blog!

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    1. Hi Caren,

      I appreciate your kind words, Caren. Yes, I've been there before and it just keeps happening. The uncertainty has been the biggest concern. I like that. What I wrote. Must remember to keep that reinforced in my heart and soul.

      Thank you and your celebratory thoughts are embraced.

      Happy wishes, your way,

      Gary

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  24. A lovely post .They say seven is a perfect number. It is also said that it is a lucky number. So we must be perfectly lucky to have you as our friend!

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    1. Hi DAVID,

      Your words speak of kind resonance. It seems that seven and all things seven have been seven sent. I'm honoured to have the luck of your friendship, good sir.

      Some lucky charms, your way,

      Gary

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  25. Always remember the joy, peace and hope you've shared with others over these 7 years ... and probably many more with folks in that real world of yours! I know your circumstances will improve. All my best to you, your son and Penny! Take care, eh!

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    1. Hi Jemi,

      You are most notably kind, dear Jemi. The shared interaction, my being here for others, as they, as you, have been here for me, profound display of what we can achieve. I'm the same, for sure, in the world beyond my computer screen. Things will get better. You are a treasure, my teacher friend. A virtual apple your way.

      Thank you for your best wishes for my family. Penny says arf. I say ,eh, eh :)

      Yay to Canada at the winter Olympics,

      Gary :)

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  26. It's been a pleasure to be part of this journey, I'm really glad I found your blog and come to meet the great human being you are. I do believe that when everything seems stubbornly fixed on making us quit, that's when we must stubbornly insist on not doing it. We're here for you but above all, I encourage you to have faith that no matter how hard they try, they won't defeat you if you don't let them.
    I send you lots of Dragon Hugs and I pray to the Higher Powers that you find the peace you need and deserve.

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    1. Hi Al,

      My dear dragon friend, we have shared our journeys of hope and determination. As we both understand, the more they try to suppress us, the stronger we become in our peaceful defiance against injustice. I gather much encouragement from you and all the good people who have been here for me. I shall always be there, sometimes discreetly in the background, for you, for all my friends.

      Peace to us both, dear Al.

      With respect and kudos,

      Gary

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  27. I gave up a few weeks ago. With no insurance, I have to pay my idiot doctor who took me off of my anti-depressant COLD TURKEY. This happened four days ago. I had been taking it for nearly 30 years. Then I got so dizzy I needed help walking. Then the head pains hit. Then the jolts of electricity running up my spine. Here I am, four days later and now realizing I was suffering (and could have died) from drug withdrawal!!!! So, not only did she refuse to refill my script for an antidepressant during a very trying time, she cut it off immediately. Do I have to tell you that she is ignorant AND pompous and arrogant?

    I am SO sorry about the neighbors, the government, the medical establishment, your son, and I'm hoping Penney will be alright as well as her skindad. Everything requires an "I'm so sorry" anymore. If we ever hear it from a doctor, we'll know we're dying. In the meantime, know I care about you, your son, and your furchild greatly.

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    1. Hi lotta joy,

      That's an outrage, dear lady! I don't see how a doctor can possibly stop your medication on an immediate basis. Any proper doctor knows, if that's agreed course of action between the patient and the doctor, that the patient is slowly weaned off the medication. Sue the bitch!

      We are enduring an awful lot here. This horrible British government is also trying to sneakily privatise our beloved universal healthcare. We continue to challenge the bastards who have the audacity to make the vulnerable pay for the mistakes of the bankers. All is going to be fine. And dammit, I wish all we be okay for you. You've had more than your share of crap.

      Hugs and kind wishes,

      Gary

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  28. I am stunned that you and I have to fight so hard to prove we are not well. And yes, it makes it worse, so much worse. Ask anyone that lives in my house just how unwell I am and they will tell you. I am sorry you are going through this.
    As I am new here I did not know you were sober. That is awesome!
    Congrats on 7 years.

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    1. Hi Birdie,

      You, dear lady, know all about this. You never asked to be ill. You do the best you can to challenge your illness. To live with, rather than suffer from your illness. Those who question the overwhelming proof, should be done for mental cruelty.

      I have been sober for nearly sixteen years. Everyday is a triumph! :) Thank you for the congrats.

      In peace and empathy,

      Gary

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  29. Seven years is amazing! I hope after seven years I'm still going strong as well. You'll be in my thoughts, and I hope things get better for you, friend. *big bear hug*

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    1. Hi Leandra,

      It amazes me I's still doing the blog. Thanks to a certain dog helping out, not sure I would have lasted this long :) I appreciate your kind thoughts, Leandra.

      A big bear hug, your way,

      Gary

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  30. Congratulations on the 7th anniversary, Gary. And I hope that things work out well for you in this year as you grow stronger!

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    1. Hi Corinne,

      Thank you very much for that. I do visualise a better future for all concerned. Appreciate your thoughtful comment, dear friend.

      In peace and good wishes,

      Gary

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  31. Oh my. I wish there were something I could do to help you. Maybe just listening will be all I can do. But, here is a hug and a hand-hold across the ocean.

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    1. Hi Linda,

      You have done plenty just by being so kind as to comment. We listen and we learn. Hugs and a hand-hold back across the ocean to you, Linda.

      In kindness,

      Gary

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  32. Congratulations on seven amazing years! Hang on to your positivity, Gary - you are an inspiration x

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    1. Hi Teresa,

      Thank you so much for the congratulations, Teresa. The positivity shall never be defeated. Inspiration breeds inspiration. I'm thankful to you.

      Hugs your way,

      Gary x

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  33. Seven is auspicious ..
    Meantime, who knows what all these further difficulties will bring. Not nice stressing about face to face assessment. Get dome regular deep breathing in even if for just a few minutes. With lovely dog on lap. You've got through extreme difficulties before, you can do it again. Sending you all good wishes.

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    1. Hi Susan,

      Seven and a renewal.

      I've had so many face to face assessments that I almost numb to them. It's the constant uncertainty that they bring. The assessments are dubious at best. I have tried to embrace the positive resources on offer, my dear friend. All I truly ask is that this British government would leave the most vulnerable in society alone and let them leave in peace.

      Your good wishes are warmly embraced. Thank you, Susan.

      In kindness,

      Gary

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  34. Hang in there Gary, all is not lost. You have been a pillar of hope for many people over the years and just by looking at the comments you get, you know we are all here to support you.

    In regards to the face to face assessment, if it's about disability benefits, they will be checking and watching everything you do as soon as you open the front door. They silently observe how you make them tea, how long you can sit before any discomfort sets in, how you walk around the house whilst you give them paperwork, how you bend down to pick something up and the list is endless. Most people make a big effort to do everything perfectly when they have visitors, but this can go against them because in reality they are being assessed to see how bad their illness is. I'm wishing you all the best Gary.

    Congratulations for 7 years of blogging. That's a mighty long time and I'm wishing you more success for the future years.

    Soon you'll be on your way to a new place, a fresh new start and a brighter future. Have a wonderful weekend Gary.

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    1. Hi Rum-Punch Drunk,

      I most certainly shall hang in there, my friend. I do firmly believe that the interaction we all share is a vital aspect to all of us embracing a sense of well being.

      I appreciate what you say. I'm acutely aware of what they do, what they observe. First of all, I wont offer them a drink. My house is in a complete shambles right now. I have packed boxes all over the place. This situation I'm in is a question of whether I end up being able to move into my new home or potentially become homeless. I know how the point scoring system works. My main conditions are from a mental health angle. This face to face home assessment is in between my regular hospital visits for my physical ailments. Thank you for your best wishes, my friend. The uncertainty I'm enduring is almost unbearable.

      Thank you for the congratulations. I have also managed to stay discreetly in the background. I only wanted to be here for others as they are here for me. That has been a profound success.

      I do hope that I get my new place in a new adventure. We wont know now until the DWP comes back with a future letter telling me about their decision.

      Hope you have a great week, my friend.

      Gary

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  35. Gary, I feel so moved by this. You're a wonderful person and you shouldn't have to face all this horrible stuff that's being thrown at you.

    I know what it's like with the health system and the benefits system and the fact that in order to prove you're ill you have to do stuff that makes you more ill. It's an evil system and it sucks.

    I worry about your move, and about Penny. I'm sure all your readers have a huge affection for Penny and I want to cry when I think of you being separated from her.

    I respect and admire your determination to make the best of things no matter what. You're a great bloke and you have lots of people who have been helped by you and who care about you. Hugs.

    (Oh and I understand about not replying. One short general reply to everyone this thread would be fine by me and I'm sure most of your other friends would feel the same way too.)

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    1. Hi fairyhedgehog,

      You are most kind and your thoughts are embraced. This is the most evil government I've ever known.

      It never used to be this bad. Since the coalition came to power, I have been ruthlessly attacked, over and over again. Yes, they are making the sick, sicker.

      I'm looking forward to my hopeful move. This is pending the decision on my assessment. If I fail, I could potentially end up homeless. That's the evil reality of what's happening. However, I stay positive that justice will be served. Penny will be close by when she goes to a new place with my son.

      Your encouraging words shall be treasured, my dear friend. I have always believed that when we help each other, we help ourselves.

      I was thinking about a group reply. And indeed, this is taking ages to do. However, I felt an obligation on this one to reply to such amazing comments such as yours.

      Thank you and here's to hope,

      Gary

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  36. There is a statistical inference that suggests the cells of our body are completely regenerated every 7 years... the humble red blood cell only lives 180 days and a bone takes 10 or so years... but in theory you are a whole new you. You ought'a be congratulated. My wish for you is that those who judge or assess you do so with insight and a kind heart

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    1. Hi Ida,

      I'm starting to truly believe that there's a whole new me, dear lady. Those that judge and assess might learn of compassion instead of corruption. A whole new reality for those who would dare attack the most vulnerable in society.

      Thank you, Ida. You have a warm heart and soul.

      In peace and hope,

      Gary

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  37. Happy 7th blogiversary. This blog is a treasure and a wonderful place to visit. I optimistically believe things will work out for you and that any hardships can be overcome. I once had horrible neighbors for sixteen long years. They shouldn't affect us, but they do. I hope yours definitely move.

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    1. Hi Medeia,

      Thank you very much. You are a treasure and I'm honoured that you visit my place, Penny's place :) Optimism is the way to be. I'm realistic and shall take it one small step at a time. Your most certainly know of anti-social neighbours. They make your life a misery. Mine shall soon, I hope, be out of the equation as I try to move to a new place.

      Be well, Medeia,

      Gary

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  38. You have been inspiring people for 7 years despite many hardships, and you will continue to do so in a more relaxing neighborhood. Sorry that you still have to jump through more hoops, but we all know you'll come through this even stronger. Gary, you are such a good person, and I'm sure that all of your hard work will pay off.

    Julie

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    1. Hi Julie,

      That's most kind of you, Julie. I know that through all our hardships, we can truly be of support to each other. That is powerful. I definitely need to get away from my neighbours who have imposed their lives on us. Any more hoops and I might think I'm a poodle :) Indeed, strength through adversity. I will not allow negative sources the satisfaction of defeating my spirit. Thank you, Julie. You are cherished.

      In kindness,

      Gary

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  39. Your sobriety is the greatest gift you could have given to your son and to yourself. May the fools that surround you fall by the way-side. Somehow things always seem to work out. Give your son and Penny a hug and know that you are not *alone.*

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    1. Hi Bish,

      You are so correct. Sobriety freed me and I tried to become the dad my son had missed during his early years. The fools will be soundly defeated in the next British election. They have now upset more than just the vulnerable.

      I know I'm not alone. Your kind message and the messages of so many, a wonderful demonstration of human kindness.

      Hugs to you, Bish,

      Gary

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  40. So sorry for your continuing struggle - but life is like that for the most part - at least for a good portion of us. The rewards, sadly will not be found in this life time, and yet your son, and Penny, and your shared journey which offers so much to us, your friends - is the blessing that is Gary! Thank you for your sacrifices, your wisdom, and your strength! You have touched many - an earth angel of great luminescence! Thank you!

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    1. Hi Yolanda,

      I shall continue to be inspired by all that is good in my life. Despite those who try to stress me out, I know how blessed I am. I share this journey and you share your journey, Yolanda. I shall continue to do my best to demonstrate that we can live life with realistic, positive anticipation.

      Thank you for being YOU!

      In peace and warm wishes,

      Gary

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  41. Congratulations on 7 years. I hope - as I always do - that your situation becomes easier soon. You are strong enough to have come this far, and strong enough to continue xx

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    1. Hi Annalisa,

      Thank you for the congratulations, dear Annalisa. I shall believe that this situation will soon be a distant nightmare. I shall continue to hold my head high no matter what they try to do.

      In peace and good wishes,

      Gary xx

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  42. Happy 7th Blogaversary! I love reading your blog, Gary. So sorry you have to go through all that crap from the government and your shitty neighbors. I hope things get better for you. You deserve to have better. Take a deep breath and give yourself a great big hug from me to you.

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    1. Hi Leeanna,

      Thank you so much for that! :) I'm really heartened you love reading this blog. This government, like my shit neighbours, are in for a big shock. I'm sure that things will get better. I will make it so. I have taken a deep breath and your hug is warmly embraced.

      I notice that I cannot seem to find your blog. If you have one to comment on, would you possibly let me know. Thank you, Leeanna.

      Hugs and happy thoughts,

      Gary

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  43. Happy blogiversary!
    I'm truly sorry that you're being put through such torture. I celebrate your sobriety with you. I send positive thoughts and love and good will across the seas to you.
    I'm so grateful we met. You are a true, genuine, unique asset to this community. Thank you for being there for us. We are now here for you.
    Tina @ Life is Good

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    1. Hi Tina,

      Thank you! :)

      It's been incredibly difficult trying to get through this. Not being well, both physically and mentally, is a challenge. Being hassled by a ruthless government, is an outrage beyond belief.

      I know of your struggles, your determination, your kindness, your empathy. I'm deeply honoured to have you as a friend, dear Tina. I truly sense that everyone is here for me. Bless you and all the rest.

      In peace and empathy,

      Gary

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  44. I feel your situation. I just got a letter from SS Disability requiring proof that I am still disabled. I am, but I am also a lot better than I was. It was my own goal (without factoring in SS Disability and their terms) to try and work again in about a year. I hope to be migraine-free at that time, if I keep doing what I am doing to improve my health, and implement any new strategies that my doctors come up with to move me forward. The stress of dealing with SS has made my migraines worse. Yes, the anxiety of proving that I am still disabled has the ripple effect of setting me back. Yikes.

    It is very difficult mentally to reach for good health while you have to "prove" that you still aren't healthy (yet), but striving toward the goal. What the govt requires is that you be SO SICK YOU NEED THE BENEFITS... and I get that. What they don't seem to understand is that the person who is reaching for wellness cannot jump back into the workforce until they get there. Recovery is fragile and they can cause sickness by pushing you before you're ready.

    I hope that you can separate these things in your mind (better than I have) and focus on your desire to be healthy while recognizing that you aren't as healthy as you need to be. I pray that the government recognizes your efforts, but sees that you aren't there yet. I believe that the move will be a positive change (even if the move itself is stressful), so try and focus on that good end result. Take care of you!!!

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    1. Hi Gary.
      I'm sad to know you are going through so much stress, my friend. I hope it will help to know that I have been thinking of you. And if you need to discuss anything I am here. You know how to contact me.
      I wish you a peaceful weekend. Take care.

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    2. I forgot to mention something. I am very impressed by how much you have accomplished. How you were able to leave that "enemy" behind.

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    3. Hi Robin,

      What an incredibly, thought provoking, articulate comment. The horrible irony of being under scrutiny and the unwarranted stress you have endured, makes me seethe with rage. It's almost like any proof by the professionals was almost dismissed as being made up. This is what I go through with our government.

      Over here, there are numerous cases of people being extremely ill who have had their rightful benefits removed. Forced to sign on for jobs that don't exist. Then when they cannot get the fictional jobs, they are sanctioned and their pittance of Jobseeker's Allowance is removed. Leaving them without money for food. This is the Britain of today.

      Yes, recovery is a fragile situation. Such fragility and constant anxiety from the bureaucratic legislators, makes the recovery a most difficult process.

      Your empathetic words are immersed in my mind, Robin. There was a time I did a lot of volunteer work. To be of help to so many. Now, this awful regime has made me too ill to even do volunteer work. Sadly, all this government cares about is reducing the deficit. The cost? Human lives have been lost because of this. The move is to be a positive adventure. A fresh start in a new environment. Thank you, dear lady. Please take care of you. Remember, I'm here if you ever need somebody to talk to.

      In peace, respect and empathy,

      Gary

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    4. Hi Julia,

      Hope, if you read the comment, that it follows on the same thread as Robin's. I know very well, just how much you care. You have displayed such kindness and encouragement to me, Julia. I'm deeply grateful for that.

      Ah yes, my "best friend" turned out to be my "worst enemy". The insidious nature of addiction nearly killed me. The last fragments of my self-respect, my inner child, spoke to me, just in time.

      You are a very special lady, dear Julia.

      In peace and harmony, your friend,

      Gary

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  45. Happy 7th anniversary! You've accomplished much in those seven years. You've touched the hearts of many people, and in the past seven years, you've made us think, made us laugh, and even made us cry with you. May you be a part of the blogosphere for many more years to come.

    And another anniversary... congratulations on the upcoming 16th year of sobriety. One day at a time, you've stayed away from that debilitating "friend", and one day at a time, you'll get through all the stresses and aggravations bugging you now, too. These things, too, will pass. Honest.

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    1. Hi Susan,

      Thank you for the seventh anniversary wishes, Susan. And my heart has been touched, by you, by so many who have reached out their virtual caring and sharing. I hope to be around and like you, continue to do such variety in our postings. Your wit and your thoughtfulness are gifts you share.

      Sixteen years as of June 18. The relief I felt when I realised the day I was genuine in telling my "friend" to get out of town, forever. All things must pass. I believe what you say. What worries me shall be challenged. Even the worst case scenario will be used as a positive.

      Thank you, Susan.

      In peace and happy thoughts,

      Gary

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  46. Seven is a really good number. Congratulations on seven years of blogging, kind sir. Congratulations on being a gift to our world - there's nothing negative about that for anyone. People matter - each individual, and we all have something to offer, indeed contribute to others. There will always be trials, tribulations, fears and foes to deal with. At the end of the day, we need only answer for ourselves and what is truly in our hearts, no matter how many times we are confronted. The truth is within each one of us, and only the truth will set us free. God bless you, Gary. Carry on and keep moving forward at whatever pace suits you best. Keeping you in my heart, kind friend :)

    M. J.

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    1. Hi M.J.,

      Seven is a number I'm really starting to appreciate. Thank you for the congratulations, dear lady. Your words resonate with inspiration. With every pitfall, there is a way back out. Back along the smooth patches of the pathway. What's written in our hearts reveals the truth. Those who oppress will never win. Yes, with the dawning of a new day, a new beginning beats in our hearts. At my own pace, at your own pace, we move onward, safe in knowing that compassion is not a weakness, but a beautiful strength.

      Heartfelt wishes, your way,

      Gary

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  47. If there's one thing I'm sure of about you, dear sir, is you are a fighter--a witty, compassionate, strong-hearted spirit that will persevere for another seven years. And we will all be there on the sidelines cheering you on! Never give up--Never surrender!
    xoxo
    Ubuntu Spirit of the Blue Swallow

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    1. Hi Samantha,

      I'm a fighter and a lover! :) Perseverance and demonstration that we will never let the bad guys win. You cheer me on and I cheer you on, dear Samantha. We fight the right fight. Nobody has the right to mess with our desire to live a peaceful, positive life.

      Hugs and goodwill, your way,

      Gary xxo :)

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  48. Congratulations on 7 years! You started your blog for a good reason and look how far it has come and how many people you have touched. Awesome!

    So sorry to hear about the medical and government stress in your life. I am sending you a hug and good wishes to get through all that is before you. You are strong and you can do it! :)
    ~Jess

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    1. Hi Jess,

      Thank you kindly, dear Jess. Indeed, my blog was born to prove that those with mental health concerns are much more than just a mental illness. It is only a small part of who I am.

      The bureaucracy and the unfair stress will fade away. I gather powerful momentum from your warm encouragement. Thank you, Jess.

      Please take good care,

      Gary :)

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  49. Happy 7th blogoversary Gary!
    You are a wonderful, strong, cheerful, kind and compassionate human being who has touched many lives. I believe that what we put out into the world comes back to us... and you exude so much positivity... and you are a fighter... a true champion!
    Thank you for being there for this community! We are also here for you. Remember that.
    Never give up, Gary!
    Take care...
    Writer In Transit

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    1. Hi Michelle,

      Thank you for that, dear lady :)

      Wow and thank you. I really hope to interact is such a way that I do display that we can challenge a negative environment and replace it with the positivity we all truly deserve.

      This community has been a blessing. As you are here for me, I am always here for you. The encouragement and sharing is a profound lesson.

      Thank you, Michelle.

      Hugs, your way,

      Gary

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  50. Stay strong and don't let them grind you down. I know others in your predicament and you are NOT alone in this.

    Governments come and go, so do the regulations they pass. Keep at it and we will be able to force change.

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    1. Hi Martin,

      I most certainly will stay strong, my kind friend. Sadly, like you, I know of many who are also going through these tough times.

      We must hope that significant change comes very soon. I know I've become somewhat of an activist. This has surprised me. It shows how passionate I am about a tangible change.

      Thank you, Martin.

      In kindness and goodwill,

      Gary

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  51. Happy Seventh Anniversary, Gary.

    Someone once told me that when times get tough like this, it's because evil (or the devil, or negativity, or however you want to perceive it) is trying its darnedest to get you to come to that way of thinking. Concentrate on the good. It will quash the bad, believe me. Never entertain the negative thoughts that get you down, instead, turn them around to positive. I wrote a post on a book about the power of positive thinking (As A Man Thinketh). It's up now. I struggle with depression at times and the suggestions in this booklet helped. It's only 67 pages (small pages) and was free on Kindle last I checked. Check out my post and there's a link there.

    Know that you are loved.

    M.L. Swift, Writer: As A Man Thinketh

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    1. Hi Michael,

      I appreciate the anniversary wishes. Thank you.

      What you allude to makes darn good sense. I might add that there are forces that would to their utmost to overwhelm with negativity. I try to starve such factors of the negative energy they try to inflict. You will now know that I actually did a series of posts on this very subject. I got a huge response to what I wrote. I was deeply engrossed in regards to your posting and that book you noted.

      I'm a firm believer in turning perceived negatives into positives, my kind friend. The challenge comes from within and without.

      I feel the love. Thank you, Michael.

      In kindness and admiration,

      Gary

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  52. Hugs. Kisses. Love. From Minnesota.

    XXXXXXXXXXX OOOOOOOOOOOOOOO And Prayers.

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    1. Hi Kim,

      Thank you and hugs, kisses, love from Leek, Staffordshire :)

      Your prayers are embraced.

      Loving, hopeful thoughts, your way,

      Gary xxxooo :) !

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  53. Way to go! Keep standing tall. Don't let anything or anyone get you down.
    Prayers headed your way - for courage, hope, determination, and everything you need to succeed.

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    1. Hi Tyrean,

      I thank you. I stand tall with my head held high :) I wont let the corrupt ones get the better of me. There are many like me who will take no more.

      Your powerful prayers are a wondrous gift. Thank you, Tyrean.

      In kindness,

      Gary

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  54. So sorry I'm late, Gary. No excuse, except the internet hates me. Regards, I'm wishing you the best, and now I'm going back to the top to read everyones' comments. Hugs and deep admiration. It's been an honour being your blog buddy.

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    1. Hi Joylene,

      My dear lady, you are never late. The internet is a fickle beast. My best will happen, I promise you that. So many comments and I must apologise for taking so darned long to respond. Oh my goodness. Your blogging friendship is cherished, Joylene.

      Have fun in Mexico.

      Gary

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  55. Congratulations on seven years! That's impressive!

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    1. Hi Sherry,

      I appreciate your congratulations. It's impressive that Penny the Jack Russell dog and modest internet superstar has tolerated me for this long! :)

      Be well, dear Sherry,

      Gary

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  56. Gary, you are a treasure. It's such a gift learning more about your journey and who you are. Thank you for sharing this bit of your soul. You are a light and a strength to so many, and it's a privilege to know you. It's so hard... so very hard... but you're doing it. Every day, you're doing it. And I'm so proud of all these years that you've been strong and faced so many trials for your son and family and well, us. I'm sad that I haven't known you these seven years. But I am glad that I know you now. Keep pushing. You're so very important to all of us. <3

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    1. Hi Morgan,

      Awe thanks, Morgan. You are a jewel amongst the treasures of blogland. I do like to be totally honest and transparent. I think that way we can all learn about the frailties and the powerful spirit that beats within all of us. I learn from every challenge, be it good or bad. Each day, a new chance and a new lesson learnt.

      I have raised my son on my own and it has made me strong. I have done whatever it takes to create a warm, safe environment for him and of course, a certain celebrity dog :)

      I hope you realise that I find your amazing attitude through your own personal moments of adversity, to be profound inspiration. You are a marvel, Morgan. Your friendship, a cherished, treasured gift.

      Thank you, kind lady.

      Gary

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  57. Sending you all the positive well-wishes I can, Gary. May seven become your "lucky seven" and eliminate the stresses that whittle away our defense. Peace to you, my friend.

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    1. Hi Jeff,

      You, my good friend, send such positive well wishes. Seven be a lucky number. I do sense this as the the stresses that impose upon me will lose their grip. You, kind sir, are an inspiration and a display of the human spirit at its finest.

      My admiration for you through your personal, tender, reflective moments, is a wonder to behold. Bless you, Jeff.

      Gary

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  58. Ah, Gary, I feel your pain and admire your strength. I look to you as a beacon to guide me, for you've had more struggles than I can imagine and yet you hold your head high. You give us comfort when we need it. You show so much compassion, never seeming to run low even though it costs you. I hope I can give a little bit back to you, even though I've been sporadic at best, lost in the soup of my own problems. Stand strong and know you have many friends watching your back...and petting your dog, feeding her treats when you're not looking. ;) The best things will happen for you and your son this year, I think. You certainly deserve it.

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    1. Hi River Fairchild,

      I know that we share a gift. That being the gift of empathy. It's my awareness of others and their struggles that has kept me needing to be a source of hope in what can seem a hopeless world. You give with your comment from the heart, dear lady. Compassion is what we both strive for. The soup shall settle. I stand strong and you stand strong. We stand strong together in the new world where we shall see those who are suffering find some solace from the gentle souls who care. The next few months will be hectic and challenging. I meet them head on and I will triumph over adversity. My senses tell me that you will to.

      Bless you, my friend.

      With the gift of empathy, your way,

      Gary

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    2. And if empathy doesn't work...call me and we'll kick some butt! :)

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      We shall be kicking a lot of butt, I reckon!! :)

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  59. Dear Gary,
    Seven sees you writing the most heartfelt and soulful blog post ever. Your strength, spirit, and resilience will get your through this uncertain time to one that offers lightness. River said it all so beautifully. You've been here for us. We are here for you. Lean on us whenever you need to. We have only love for you AND faith in you.

    Blessings, dear friend,
    xoRobyn

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    1. Dear Robyn,

      That is most kind of you, dear Robyn. I speak from the heart to help others and to help myself. Uncertain times have caused such anxiety. Yet, the comfort I receive is heartening beyond measure. River and you, have articulated the hope we all have. You are here for me and I'm here for you. Such a profound result. Love and faith, we share in the new world of compassion.

      Thank you, Robyn.

      Peaceful, hopeful blessings, your way,

      Gary xo

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  60. Someone upstream in the comments said it already, but as I was reading your blog I thought of the fact that in seven years' time every cell in our body has been replaced, so you are an entirely different person now than you were when you began blogging.

    You're not the person you used to be, and although you may not be the person you think you ought to be, you're well on your way to becoming the person you're going to be. (A little cliche with your morning coffee never hurt anyone.)

    Congratulations on this milestone, Gary, and may you have many sevens more. Thank you for all you do.

    Illegitimati non carborundum (Don't let the bastards wear you down.)

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    1. Hi rhymeswithplague,

      When I look back to my very first blog, my ideals have not changed. My writing, I hope, has improved. Still, I'm sure I'm not what I was and in seven years time, I will look back on this and realise I'm not what I was then.

      A cliche and a cup of coffee gets the morning going.

      Thanks for the milestone congratulations, my good friend. Thank you for being part of the interaction.

      The bastards are in for a nasty surprise.

      Take care and I must go now and see who I am at this moment....

      Gary

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  61. Hang in there, Gary. You and Penny have touched a lot of lives. We're rooting for you!

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    1. Ms. CrankyPants,

      You can be assured, my dear friend, I'm hanging around :) Penny and I, her mere human, are heartened by what you say. Thanks for the rooting.

      Stay special, my kind friend.

      Gary

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  62. Keep your mind steadfast, positive, and strong, Gary. ᕦ(ò_óˇ)ᕤ
    All your friends from across the world support you and care for you. You will get through this.

    Peace and love to you my friend.


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    1. My pic may not have translated very well, but I'm sending you a lot of heart and positive vibes your way. <3 :)

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    2. Hi Elise,

      You have my assurance, dear lady, that my mind is focused on a positive outcome.

      The outpouring of support from all over the world has touched my heart and soul. I'm forever grateful to you and all my dear friends.

      You have shown what a big heart you have, Elise.

      Thank you so very much.

      Peace, love and positive vibes all the away across the English Channel to you.

      Gary x :)

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  63. Congrats on the seven years of blogging. I'm glad Shelly shared your link on her blog. Congrats also on the sobriety! That is one of the biggest accomplishments that anyone can make in their life!

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    1. Hi Gossip_Grl,

      Thank you. I appreciate that. Shelly is so kind. I'm flattered when she shares my links Sobriety has brought back the man I was and I think, an even better man. Took fight an addiction is one of the toughest battles we can ever have.

      Thank you, dear lady.

      In kindness and good wishes,

      Gary

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  64. Yes, I also want to congratulate you on 7 years of blogging! Yeah! Of course staying sober for double that is even better. Congratulations Big time. Don't ever give up. Stay your course. God loves you, your son and Penny too. You make so many people smile. Next time I look up at the stars I'll pray you are blessed with more hope and happiness for your future. Blessings.

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    1. Hi Eve,

      I thank you for the congratulations, Eve. Staying sober has been a revelation. The freedom is a magical. I drank to numb the pain. I drank because I was going insane. And the drank made the insanity more acute. To this day, I'm very proud of how I turned it around as I lay there dying.

      Smiles are what we share, dear Eve. The stars are shining on all of us with the renewed hope of that more compassionate world we crave. Your blessing are embraced.

      Bless you, dear lady.

      Gary

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  65. Congratulations on seven years! Stay strong and positive. You will get out of the murky waters. Even it's slowly by doggy-paddling. Penny can help with that.

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    1. Hi Christine,

      Your congratulations is greatly appreciated. Strong and positive, I shall stay. The waters shall most certainly clear. Penny will guide me through the waters. I have learn to doggy paddle :) Thank you, dear Christine.

      Happy thoughts, your way,

      Gary

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  66. Gary,

    Congratulations on seven years. I just crossed six on both my blogs, and I know how much it takes to keep a blog alive over the years.

    So sorry to hear of your troubles. I wish I was your neighbor, and could talk to your other neighbors once in a while-- I think people need to see with their hearts to empathize, and that goes for human society, as well as the government.

    Sending you hugs from Singapore, from across the seven seas.

    I hope you come out of this as happy and positive as only you can be. You bring sunshine to all us bloggers---a huge thank you for being you.

    Lots of love,
    Damyanti

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    1. Hi Damyanti,

      I thank you for the congratulations. To keep two blogs going for over six years takes some effort. I'm amazed by that. I can barely keep this one going. Thank goodness for my celebrity dog :)

      The troubles will fade away. One way or another, I will make it so. What a lovely neighbour you would be. You could help me with my writing. The poor dog tires of helping me. I have shown my neighbours kindness and courtesy. Made them welcome when they moved in. In return, they made our lives hell. What a a bizarre world we live in. A positive environment and compassionate instead of corrupt government. What a thought.

      Seven sees the seven seas. Hugs from Singapore are warmly welcomed.

      I shall strive to have a happy, positive outcome through all of this. I hope you know that I'm here for you, Damyanti. You are a kind, decent lady. The sun shines down on and it warms your caring heart.

      Love and hugs across the seven seas,

      Gary :)

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  67. Wow, 7 years! You've got me beat by 3.

    I'm sorry there's still so much upheaval in your life. Continued hopes that things get better for you. Only positive from here on out.

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    1. Hi Shannon,

      Oh yeah, seven years of being shy and humble :) Four years is very good, you know.

      The upheaval will bring positive results. I must believe that. Positives I embrace, dear Shannon. Thank you.

      In peace and harmony,

      Gary

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  68. wow...that last paragraph was...intense. sorry to hear but man, so proud of you!!! keep going strong my bro!

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    1. Hi Tammy,

      Thank you and I can write some intense stuff. Hey, it will be all good. I sense that. Sis, you are amazing. Never forget that!

      Hugs and happy wishes,

      Gary

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  69. Hi Gary - when you're not around I 'know' things are difficult for you - sounds like life is being mega frustrating and as you say ill-making, stressing you out of sight and sound ... my thoughts as you parade your life and troubles to the health professionals ... more importantly I hope you can get away from the neighbours, establish some form of peace and quiet, and rationality back into your existence ... also that things work out for Tristan.

    My thoughts - Hilary

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    1. Hi Gary .. I never said congratulations on 7 years - that's very good going .. and it's good you're around us .. or you send Penny over! Cheers Hilary

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    2. Hi Hilary,

      Your intuition is spot on. There has been so many external hassles that I've been finding it most difficult to maintain a semblance of blogging interaction. The next challenge, as you know, is upcoming on March 6. I've had more than enough of nasty neighbours. Yet, like this government, the bullies will never defeat me. Peace for all of us.

      Thanks for the congratulations, Hilary. It's good to be around, dear friend. Penny is going to knock on your door :)

      Thank you, Hilary.

      Stay special,

      Gary

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  70. Well, I hear what you're saying and I understand how when you're struggling to deal with one major life issue, another and another heap themselves on you. Then there's that bureaucracy--a delight no matter what country you're in or what bureau you must manage.

    While I was going through my mom's death, and then my son's accident, filling out forms and doing interviews with case workers became a daily routine, one I could barely concentrate on. Then I started to take everything in chunks: one form, one interview, one hospital visit, one walk to clear my head. One of everything was all I could do.

    What I hear from your post is that you are sober, you have a wonderful son and a faithful dog. The move, while unsettling, may be a fresh start--believe that it will be. These are the treasures in your life. Embrace them. Focus on them. Forms and interviews be damned!

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    1. Hi Lee,

      Bureaucracy and insensitivity, rears its ugly head all over the world. It's life being in that film, "Groundhog Day."

      You had a lot to take on, dear friend. Breaking it down into manageable chunks is an ideal. You are to be commended to focus enough to do that. Many a stroll I've taken to try to rid me of those cobwebs. To get things into a clearer perspective. I just wish that when I fill in a form and the evidence is abundantly clear, that they accept that. Instead, they send me out the same form a few months later and it starts all over again. Yet, we survive and we do our best to maintain our sense of humour, no matter the perverse irony.

      I am sober and the freedom exhilarates. The move, with all that goes with it, I do see as a positive adventure in a new start. I treasure all that there is to be grateful for. I know how blessed I am. Forms and interviews, come and go. We understand the real priorities.

      Thank you for your wise words, Lee.

      With respect and kudos, your way,

      Gary

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    2. Without forms where would our governments be? Stay the course. Keep taking those cobweb-freeing strolls. Hug yourself every once in a while because you are worthy of those. And kudos back.

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    3. Hi Lee,

      Thank you for the follow up comment. Without forms our governments would maybe start concentrating on being less corrupt and more passionate. The course is true. The cobwebs were on the corn. Corn on the cobwebs? I'm giving myself a huge hug in one of my many full-length mirrors. What a visual :) Kudos, once more and thank you.

      Gary

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  71. Congratulations. Seven years is a lot of time blogging.

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    1. Hi Lady Lilith,

      Thank you for that. Seven years. I should get some sleep :)

      Be well, my dear friend,

      Gary

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  72. Ah Gary. Hugs. I'm sorry you're having so many hassles. But I am totally convinced you will overcome, you have beaten bigger demons. Alcohol is a demon few are able to walk away from once it has their hooks in them.

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    1. Hi Elizabeth,

      Lovely Elizabeth, thank you for the hugs :) You are right. I shall overcome. The demon of alcohol nearly destroyed me. I removed the hooks and freed myself :)

      Thank you, Elizabeth.

      Hugs and happy thoughts,

      Gary

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  73. Gary, this is a very touching post. Governments don't like handing out money where it's needed, they'd much rather use it for political gain. You just hang in there and face it head on. As they say, "Don't let the b*****ds win!" You're a winner! And you have a little boy to lead through this wilderness. Please try to be positive and I hope the move doesn't do you in too much. Always stressful, but I hope you get good neighbours...xx

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    1. Hi Denise,

      I do try to write with candid honesty. I thank you for noting.. Governments are now using the austerity measures card to target the most vulnerable. Of course, they use the money to further their propaganda machines. The idiots will not win. Too many folks are hurting. These folks will be winners.

      I have a young man to see off into the world beyond the front door. This has been a driving force that has kept me doing my best at enhancing positivity. The move will be an adventure. I've a pretty good hunch that my new neighbours will be most cooperative.

      Thank you, Denise.

      Hugs across the waters,

      Gary xx

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  74. And who knew so many bloggers were psychologists!

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    1. Ah yes, Denise. Life coaches, methinks! :)

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  75. So sorry pal. At least you've got this amazing community of blogging neighbors who adore you no matter what other STUFF is happening. Here's seven years and more to come!

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    1. Hi Crystal,

      It will be okay, dear friend. Ah yes, I like that. The amazing community of blogging neighbours. Excellent way to put it. Seven years and onward :)

      Take care, Crystal,

      Gary

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  76. Congrats on your many milestones Gary.
    Reaching for the positive during a difficult stretch is always worth the effort . Hang in there and kudos for having come so far . Journey on !

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    1. Hi Willow,

      Lovely to see you, my friend.

      Thank you for the congrats, Willow.

      The positives will always been found out of the negatives. The journey continues, the potholes along the road are just a minor setback :)

      Thank you, Willow.

      In kindness and continuing journeys,

      Gary

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  77. Happy Seven, Gary! Right now, I am making a wish for you - that all your tough times race by and run away to usher in happier times. I admire you for giving Mr.Alcohol a kick in the rear. Hugs to Penny. And so glad we connected.

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    1. Hi Vidya,

      My delightful friend, thank you for that. Your wish is circulating and making a gentle ambience. Mr. Alcohol is never welcome in my world :) Our connection is a wondrous situation. I'm grateful to you.

      In peace and wonder,

      Gary

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  78. I had no idea you'd been blogging for that long, Gary. That's quite an accomplishment. I'm glad I came upon your cyber home here during these years and have had the pleasure of connecting with you and Penny.
    I'm sorry you are having such a difficult time. Leave it to the government to make hard times even harder. I am sending lots of good thoughts your way and I hope you see better times soon. Take care.

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    1. Hi Julie Flanders,

      I sure have. Kept a very low profile. We are delighted to know you and it's awesome to visit each others cyber homes :) Penny says hello.

      All is going to be okay. Governments and austerity. In other words, target the poor to pay for the mistakes of the rich. Your good thoughts are gratefully received, dear Julie.

      You take care of YOU,

      Gary

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  79. Happy 7th blog-iversary! Agree with Julie. That IS an accomplishment.

    Hang in there, Gary. I know it's cliche, but take it a day at a time. Shit, an hour or even a minute at a time, if you need to. Things will get better. You just gotta keep pushing ahead until they do.

    And don't worry too much about Penny. If she's anything like my dog, she'll be happy almost anywhere as long as she's with you. ;)

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    1. Hi Melissa,

      Thanks for the blogiversary wishes, Melissa. I must admit the accomplishment has a lot to do with a certain diva dog helping me out )

      One day at a time. Heck, one minute at a time. I focus on that moment when it gets better. It will be so.

      Penny will be living with my son, Tristan. However, I will see her loads. I need her to take over on the blog :)

      Thank you, Melissa.

      Have a lovely day,

      Gary :)

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  80. Thanks for sharing that, Gary. I could tell you what most government drones should do, but today I'm a gentlemn and it's not about me I hope you'll find a sober way to get through these tough times. I know you will. And tell those drone to fuck off. There, I said it. Because I like you. Congrats on the seven years.

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    1. Hey Blue,

      The really good part is that I shall confront the injustice in a completely sober state. I will not let the bastards cause me to drink again. Our horrible British government with its multi-millionaire Prime Minister, can all go fuck off. The revolution is on its way, my good friend. Thanks for the congrats. I appreciate that.

      Just wanted to let you know, huge respect for your honest and heartfelt posting. I hope many go and read your posting.

      In peace and hope, your friend,

      Gary

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    2. Thanks, Gary. It took me five seconds to know you're one of the good guys. That said, multi-millionaire Prime Sinisters can all go fuck off alright. No bastard is worth grabbing that bottle again. Ever.

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    3. Hey Blue,

      Thank you for the second response. You are one of the good guys. I sensed that before and even more so after I read that posting of yours. Multi-millionaire Prime Ministers who haven't got a clue will end up drowning in their own shit! They will never drive me back to drink, my kind friend.

      Gary :)

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  81. you are a hero and it takes a lot of balls to live as you do every day searching for hope but you give so much to each blogger with all that you write. I can't believe how many more people there are who love to read your work even more that when I used to blog before. Thank you for all your blogs the funny the surreal and the revealing personnel and sad. That is what makes you so special you words and feeling so generous. in friendship Kerrie

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    1. Hi Kerrie,

      My dear lady, thank you for such an inspiring comment. I do try to show hope where it might seem hopeless. I believe that being open, honest and transparent has demonstrated that a community spirit can thrive. We learn from each other. A powerful result. Oh I do like to write variety. When I can't be bothered to write, a certain superstar dog takes over :) I'm blessed and grateful to know you, dear Kerrie.

      In peace, hope and friendship,

      Gary :)

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  82. Gary you are a hero and I hope it's made you feel a little better to see how many positive comments there are on this blog from people who see how great you are despite the problems. I hope you feel better soon and settle happily in your new place.

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    1. Hi Jenny,

      That's most kind of you, dear Jenny. I am heartened and inspired by all the positive comments. I'm overwhelmed with such responses. I do try to show that my illness is only a small part of who I am. If only our government would let me get on with my life. I contributed much and now I only get grief from them. We shall rise from it all. I feel better with your kind comment. I anticipate a positive adventure in a new home.

      Have a lovely Sunday, my friend.

      Gary :)

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  83. Shoot man, I'm late again...

    But *so* glad I made it (Traffic was hell from Hawaii to Heathrow :)

    Anyway, my dearest Gazza, I tip my hat to you for many, many reasons, but mostly for understanding the pain in your boy's eyes.

    You are *truly* a good and *STRONG* person, so I have no doubt these current issues that you are dealing with shall be overcome (and I would march at your side to make it so :)

    Here's looking forward to the next seven years (and I hope to make it back to Blighty by then, so we're going to have to meet and grab a curry :)

    Love ya man, in a manly-cough kinda way :)

    ((GARY))

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    1. Hi Mark,

      Shoot man and there goes the Charlie type scribe :)

      All the extra traffic to get to this site. I shall have you diverted to Manchester airport, next time :)

      Yes, kind friend, the tears of a nine year old son. Even on my death bed, I had enough focus to regain all the clarity I so nearly lost.

      Your thoughtful observations are most generous. I appreciate such words. The more adversity I have, the more determined I become to see the wrongs righted. Your marching along is most comforting. Thank you.

      The next seven years of such positive interaction. Yes, get over to Britain and we can have a traditional British meal of a Vindaloo!

      Man hugs n'stuff all the way to Hawaii! :)

      Cheers, Mark.

      Gary :)

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  84. Kudos to you, Gary. You're a strong man. You will win.

    Also, congratulations to you on your Seventh Blog Anniversary. That's a milestone to be proud of.

    Hugs from San Antonio.

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    1. Hi Carol,

      Thank you for the kudos, Carol. Indeed, we shall win over those who dare suppress.

      Thanks for the congratulations on my seventh year of blogging. If it wasn't for a certain superstar dog, I don't think I would have lasted this long :)

      Hugs from Leek, dear lady.

      Gary :)

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  85. Well, I'm back. Just wanted to let you know that I dedicated something to you on the Thursday post. Hope you like it:)

    And also, I appreciated your thoughtful response to my original comment:)

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    1. Hi Robin,

      Thank you for that, Robin. You are most kind. I'm sorry that I've been struggling to keep up. However, I'm now subscribed to your postings via email. I shall be more aware in future. Your video, as per usual, was spot on.

      I appreciated you extremely thoughtful comment on here, my good friend.

      Have a lovely weekend, Robin.

      Gary :)

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  86. And we're glad you're here. For as many "sees" as you still want to be.

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    1. Hi Al,

      I'm glad to be here, good sir. I sees what you mean, my kind friend.

      Sees you later,

      Gary :)

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  87. Your seven years of determination is impressive considering what you've dealt with, but having this communication outlet is probably a good thing. So many with cushy lives struggle to come up with something to say on their blogs. Maybe struggling with real life challenges is what is needed to make words worth saying and hearing flow onto the page.

    Hope to see another seven in your life and in mine. We're all in this world together and hopefully we can all find our peace in the places we are.

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    Tossing It Out

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    1. Hi Lee,

      Thank you and yes, having the positive resources that is our community and our blogs, has displayed interaction that teaches. We listen and we learn. Adversity does cause some perhaps ironic inspiration. A determination to not let those who undermine get the better of the human spirit.

      May we both be communicating in another seven years time within this dimension. A positive environment for all. What a dream that would be.

      Thank you, kind sir.

      Gary

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I do try to comment back to each commenter individually. However, I might have to shorten my replies or give a group thank you. That way, I can spend more time commenting on your blogs. Thank you and peace, my friend.