tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4219984917795758890.post1329056711763188373..comments2024-03-27T22:57:59.870+00:00Comments on klahanie: Some Never Left The Playground.klahaniehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08613505424843475639noreply@blogger.comBlogger70125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4219984917795758890.post-25355948522588352612013-03-31T02:08:26.352+00:002013-03-31T02:08:26.352+00:00Hi Terry,
So kind of you to leave a comment on th...Hi Terry,<br /><br />So kind of you to leave a comment on this old posting. Thank you. There are bullies in all shapes and forms. Not giving them permission to sabotage my life was a positive step in a better direction. The sun? Wow, did you take photos as proof? :) Seriously, glad you finally got a bit of sunshine. Actually, so did we. At least five minutes :)<br /><br />Thank you, my friend.<br /><br />Gary :)klahaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08613505424843475639noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4219984917795758890.post-72146227613264366102013-03-30T14:13:49.941+00:002013-03-30T14:13:49.941+00:00The BULLIES are everywhere Gary!!! Everywhere. I...The BULLIES are everywhere Gary!!! Everywhere. I did a post at one point on my blog on how even animals bully each other. I so agree with embracing the positive things in life. Guess what!! The sun is shining today.... first time in a long hard winter.Eat To Livehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12851191468716916221noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4219984917795758890.post-5893976161000342632012-10-19T23:02:18.370+00:002012-10-19T23:02:18.370+00:00Hi Static,
Thank you, my friend, for responding t...Hi Static,<br /><br />Thank you, my friend, for responding to this archived posting. And you raise some profound points. Bullies have their own mental health issues and they are usually insecure and find the vulnerable an easy target to deflect away their own insecurities.<br /><br />Cheers dude and may you have a peaceful weekend.<br /><br />Gary klahaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08613505424843475639noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4219984917795758890.post-39434710142985472172012-10-19T22:44:09.700+00:002012-10-19T22:44:09.700+00:00Many good points you raised there, Gary. "A b...Many good points you raised there, Gary. "A bully needs an audience." Bullying is all too common in the workplace too. Really tired of other people's childish nonsense and asinine games myself. If you ask me, most everyone is mentally ill on some level, especially those jerks.Statichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13875998739533600766noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4219984917795758890.post-32299332659336932762011-01-10T18:30:50.091+00:002011-01-10T18:30:50.091+00:00Dear Shanaz,
Very sadly, some bullies became adult...Dear Shanaz,<br />Very sadly, some bullies became adult bullies. They needed an easy, vulnerable target to mask their own insecurities. However, of course, there is never a justified excuse to be a bully.<br />I have become a much stronger and positive person since I moved on from that awful time in my life.<br />And thank you for your kind, positive wishes. Our positive interaction is most inspirational and I thank you so much.<br />2011 has started with a renewed optimism. Here's wishing you an awesome and happy New Year.<br />Smiles and hugs, your way, Gary :-)klahaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08613505424843475639noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4219984917795758890.post-64188908454288798982011-01-10T16:09:54.576+00:002011-01-10T16:09:54.576+00:00Thank you Gary, for sharing this very personal sid...Thank you Gary, for sharing this very personal side of you with us. I can understand kid bullies, but bullies who are adults? In the freaking office? Wow. That left me speechless.<br />I'm glad you abandoned the crazy place and though it affected you so badly then, now you're a strong person. =) I hope you had a lovely start of 2011 and will continue to be the awesome person you are by sharing positive and witty thoughts on your blog. Smile! :)shanaz@RShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12470536308827713492noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4219984917795758890.post-13690800192021054262011-01-05T22:09:12.395+00:002011-01-05T22:09:12.395+00:00And, thank you, kerrie:-)And, thank you, kerrie:-)klahaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08613505424843475639noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4219984917795758890.post-28296345196611365052011-01-05T20:02:23.945+00:002011-01-05T20:02:23.945+00:00thank you Gthank you Gkerriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05013226271426913979noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4219984917795758890.post-1890823556525155272011-01-04T23:43:47.674+00:002011-01-04T23:43:47.674+00:00Dear kerrie,
Bless you, my dear friend. I am trul...Dear kerrie,<br />Bless you, my dear friend. I am truly honoured that you linked into my blog. It's always a pleasure to visit your clever and thought provoking site.<br />It's heartening to know that you shared kind and caring interaction with those who were experiencing mental health concerns. It proves that we are all in this together.<br />And thank you for sharing your own story of outrageous actions by those who would have the audacity to bully you. <br />On top of that, you were ill- treated by your husband for over twenty years. You are to be admired for you resilience and I know you will continue to embrace the life you deserve. A life where you can realise the positive aspects on offer. Stay feeling safe and reassured that you have mine and others, support and encouragement. Keep going and keep smiling:-)<br />This is powerful that you verbalised your feelings. My blog has always been about being empathetic and transparent. I so admire you for leaving such a candid and honest comment.<br />I thank you for your kind words. I shall continue to speak from the heart and be a true ally to decent folks like you.<br />With respect and warm wishes for a better year, for you, for all of us, Garyklahaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08613505424843475639noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4219984917795758890.post-79256578524831076432011-01-04T21:20:17.231+00:002011-01-04T21:20:17.231+00:00Thank you for your blog I feel privlaged to one of...Thank you for your blog I feel privlaged to one of your followers<br />I have worked with many people with mental illness and it helped me through a bad time I got as much as I gave and probable more.<br />As for bulling there is nothing so demolising as bullying I really feel for you experience it like being in a mental quick sand it is hell. I was bullied at work a long time ago it took me ages to get over. I was married for 20 years<br />and suffered abuse for most of it the funny thing is I didnt crack up until a few years after I left and was feeling for the first time quite safe. I admire you guts to speak you heart to face you demons and create new life that is so posative for all who read your work. <br />thank you<br />Kkerriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05013226271426913979noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4219984917795758890.post-58718455012630289972011-01-03T20:30:16.751+00:002011-01-03T20:30:16.751+00:00Dear MartyrMom,
I'm saddened to read that you ...Dear MartyrMom,<br />I'm saddened to read that you have three who suffer from mental health concerns.<br />It can be daunting and frightening having mental health issues. And, it can have a ripple effect on those directly affected. I have found the inner strength to move forward and challenge my illness. The days of numbing the reality of my illness, by self-medicating are long gone. Of course, the irony was that my self-medication, actually made the illness so much worse.<br />I have found ongoing strength via writing and the wonderful support of the blogging community. It's testimony that we can all be here for each other.<br />I would hope that your support and love for your children will be of tremendous help. May they be inspired and may you stay strong.<br />Peaceful wishes to you and your children.<br />With respect and Happy New Year wishes, your way, Gary.klahaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08613505424843475639noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4219984917795758890.post-11264148555363824002011-01-03T20:19:43.386+00:002011-01-03T20:19:43.386+00:00Hi Philip,
What you have written regarding the hum...Hi Philip,<br />What you have written regarding the human condition, demonstrates that we have not moved on and we have much to learn, to understand.<br />The past is the past and lessons have been learnt. I have moved on, very well and I'm very proud of my ability to focus on creative coping.<br />This posting was a honest and raw verbalisation of my feelings to hopefully give comfort, support and inspiration to those who may think they are alone in a what seems to be a hopeless situation. So, if anything, I have proven that the bastards will never win. Oh, they came close, but I found that last shred of dignity that gave me the incentive to move on and reclaim my life.<br />I echo your sentiments. My growth will continue and I wish for you continued growth and happiness in your new life's adventure. <br />May you and all your dear ones, have a most positive and inspirational New Year. Thank you, my dear friend.<br />With respect and warm wishes, Gary xx :-)klahaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08613505424843475639noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4219984917795758890.post-26953827661304014492011-01-03T20:04:10.293+00:002011-01-03T20:04:10.293+00:00Dear LilPixi,
Wow, thank you for such lovely compl...Dear LilPixi,<br />Wow, thank you for such lovely compliments. I'm very touched by what you have written.<br />Thank you for such honesty and expressing your feelings about the cruel torment you endured from a bully. I sense your strength and determination. <br />I have attempted to display that we can see the light beyond what seems to be a hopeless dark. I applaud you, my friend. Please accept my gift of genuine empathy. You deserve the right to a peaceful and happy life. I just know that you can and will make it an inspirational reality in your life. <br />May you and your loved ones have a most peaceful and fulfilling New Year.<br />Much respect and admiration, your way, Gary.klahaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08613505424843475639noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4219984917795758890.post-32861834727628307552011-01-03T19:44:56.725+00:002011-01-03T19:44:56.725+00:00Dear Michelle,
Thanks for such a supportive and un...Dear Michelle,<br />Thanks for such a supportive and understanding comment. I just knew you would know where I was coming from. In fact, the stigma and the crap the media portrays of mental illness, is most detrimental to those of us who wish to break through the ignorance and misconceptions of those who are living with mental health issues.<br />Michelle, a big "High Five" and virtual hugs, your way, Gary.<br />Have a most awesome New Year.<br />With great respect, Gary xklahaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08613505424843475639noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4219984917795758890.post-81813245535955684162011-01-03T19:39:05.365+00:002011-01-03T19:39:05.365+00:00Hi The Manic Chef,
Thank you for such an honest an...Hi The Manic Chef,<br />Thank you for such an honest and heartfelt response to my posting. You most certainly went through some traumatic and very cruel times, especially in high school. Thank goodness, for what it's worth, you had the forest to give you some form of comfort. It does seem that it was an inspirational and positive solace. You are here and you are strong.<br />Well, my life is much better and your life is much better. We have both been determined to make it so.<br />We have both overcome a lot and that will inspire us to have an even more positive and happy future. <br />Yes, the sad and painful fallout from all of it was that I lost the woman I loved. My son was out of my life for six years. At twelve, he came to live with me. This inspired me to prove the trust I was given would be the catalyst to make me the best darned dad possible.<br />The interaction and the encouragement is heartening and inspiring. Thank you, my friend, for verbalising your feelings. May we all be of comfort to each other, in the pursuit of a kinder, more caring world. Thanks Cliff. Take good care, my friend.<br />In peace and empathy for the New Year, Gary.klahaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08613505424843475639noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4219984917795758890.post-83095493332273426522011-01-03T19:11:34.564+00:002011-01-03T19:11:34.564+00:00Dear SY,
Thank you so much for taking the time to ...Dear SY,<br />Thank you so much for taking the time to read my posting.<br />I so wish, through honesty and transparency, that the message of enlightenment and understanding, will grow, ever the stronger.<br />I just wanted you to know what a truly remarkable and positive post it was that I read on your excellent site. Very inspiring.<br />Have a most peaceful New Year.<br />With respect and positives wishes, Gary.klahaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08613505424843475639noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4219984917795758890.post-11885878492308547492011-01-03T19:06:48.185+00:002011-01-03T19:06:48.185+00:00Dear joanne,
Thank you, my friend. I strive to ma...Dear joanne,<br />Thank you, my friend. I strive to maintain a positive inner environment which exudes and outer peace.<br />You raise an excellent point, which I agree with, entirely. At some point, during our lives, we all experience some form of mental health concerns. And yes, many people are embarrassed to admit they have mental health issues. They fear the stigma attached and that they shall be judged as weak. We should never be ashamed of having mental health issues. With increased awareness and understanding, this can be a much more positive environment, for all of us.<br />Bullies, from my perspective, do have a form of mental illness. You have eloquently confirmed what I stated about the insecurity of the bully, within my posting. It can indeed stem from a traumatic childhood where they had been subjected to abuse which gave them low self esteem. The irony is that you might think they would act the entire opposite to what had occurred in their earlier lives.<br />I do my utmost to bring further awareness of the plight of those with mental health issues, and that includes the bullies.<br />May the ripple effect of positivity embrace us all. <br />Thank you so much for your thoughtful, understanding and wise contribution to my posting. I am very grateful, joanne.<br />With much respect and positive wishes your way for a wonderful New Year, Gary<br />xoklahaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08613505424843475639noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4219984917795758890.post-65912132886616292352011-01-03T18:47:31.444+00:002011-01-03T18:47:31.444+00:00Dear David,
Thank you. As you know, I have allude...Dear David,<br />Thank you. As you know, I have alluded to the impact bullying can have, in previous posts.<br />We both wish to eliminate the unfair stigma that still surrounds mental health issues. I want to demonstrate that environmental factors, the 'nature, nurture' aspects, can have a profound effect on our mental health well being. <br />I hope, just like you hope, that transparency can bring further awareness of mental illness and the fact it can happen to anybody.<br />May you and your loved ones have a most positive and fulfilling New Year.<br />With respect and kind wishes, Gary.klahaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08613505424843475639noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4219984917795758890.post-1106412831900465322011-01-03T18:36:06.768+00:002011-01-03T18:36:06.768+00:00Hi Chris,
My friend, you have my empathy.
Here'...Hi Chris,<br />My friend, you have my empathy.<br />Here's wishing you a most positive New Year.<br />With respect, Gary.klahaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08613505424843475639noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4219984917795758890.post-11437846169186901862011-01-03T18:33:56.375+00:002011-01-03T18:33:56.375+00:00Dear lifeshighway,
Thank you for your encouragemen...Dear lifeshighway,<br />Thank you for your encouragement. I shall continue to be of much support as I can for anybody who needs a bit of comfort. They must know that they need not be alone.<br />May your husband and your son challenge the demons and focus on the positive resources that are there on offer. Of course, whether we are experiencing mental health issues, or not, we are all in this together, united in a better environment for all.<br />May you all have a blessed and inspirational New Year.<br />In kindness, Gary.klahaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08613505424843475639noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4219984917795758890.post-50153185612258763532011-01-03T14:51:02.076+00:002011-01-03T14:51:02.076+00:00I have 3 who suffer from a mental illness. One is ...I have 3 who suffer from a mental illness. One is undiagnosed but I see the signs so clearly. It is a hard life to lead and one that you MUST stay strong or you'll self medicate with anything that will take a way the pain.<br /><br />My thoughts stay with you and your continued peace. I hope that my own children will be able to eventually find that strength.Yarnladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11725221617624220867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4219984917795758890.post-76157117313861913162011-01-03T13:24:04.606+00:002011-01-03T13:24:04.606+00:00Hi Gary, I know how dreadful that time is for you....Hi Gary, I know how dreadful that time is for you. I would like to think this world has moved on, however I am aware jingoism is live and well in our green and pleasant land. Not that we are unique, I think it is part of human condition world wide, we are small fearful creatures whose fear of the different is little changed from when we left the trees for the open plains.<br />The thing is to remember that the past is a lost world, that can never be changed. <br />Recovery is about moving on, not revisiting the pain of the past, doing that only lets the bastards win.<br />I hope for you this year becomes one of growth, I know it isn't easy but we could practice turning our backs on history. Any way the future can be so much brighter, if, we decide that is what we really want.<br />Have a great new year Gary.<br />Philip x xSmallandsnappyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08473121620292127285noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4219984917795758890.post-69151611725140427532011-01-03T11:40:46.090+00:002011-01-03T11:40:46.090+00:00You're really an amazing, beautiful & wond...You're really an amazing, beautiful & wonderful person, Gary.<br /><br />I can relate so much, I wouldn't even know where to begin. Esp. with the empathy & understanding. Going on 5+ years strong severely taunted on a daily basis by a bully. That which does not kill us, right? It's true what they say.<br /><br />You've made it through to the other side & into the light. I live waiting for, but knowing fate will do the same for me.<br /><br />And a blessed, peaceful, happy new year to you & yours.LilPixihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06003943884120914945noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4219984917795758890.post-78042670466458453052011-01-03T03:49:04.341+00:002011-01-03T03:49:04.341+00:00Gary, I think you are absolutely RAD for sharing t...Gary, I think you are absolutely RAD for sharing this. People think so oddly of mental illness - in comparison to other "medical" conditions. That peeves me to no end. MAJOR props and a huge virtal "High Five" to you for this post. Much love from across the pond!The Reckmonsterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08846718419590267145noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4219984917795758890.post-69853014463900786042011-01-03T02:12:17.352+00:002011-01-03T02:12:17.352+00:00Gary, boy can I relate, school, especially high sc...Gary, boy can I relate, school, especially high school, from a few male teachers, to some boys, it was as if I wore a sign, pick on this insecure freak. At 14 so much had taken it's toll, that I tried suicide, it was more of a call for help and some real love, my only friends was the forest we lived next to, it was a solace where I was accepted and a hiding place from home and everything else.<br />Those bullies you speak of can even be your part of your family. Man I won't trade places whatsoever! My life is a bit more like heaven now than back in those confused and dark times. I can relate to the pain you were exposed too and which overcame you. But to lose your wife and your son, that is something I fortunately did not suffer,I've never married, and never will. Nevertheless you have gone on and overcame, good for you.<br />Now there are others that are in your corner. Keep on keeping on, and thank you for becoming a new friend, friend. Be blessed in the coming new year!The Manic Chefhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06587881609957361468noreply@blogger.com